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I have 2 questions regarding my current situation with my ex. So confused and needing some opinions?

• I have 2 questions regarding my current situation with my ex. So confused and needing some opinions???????? Okay, here is the situation. My Ex and I split up this past may. She deletes me off of Facebook, deletes the comments i left on her youtube(this is recently, they had been up even after the break up). I went and seen her last friday to ask her where we stand and what she wants but I never got a direct answer. It seems like she is giving hints but won't tell me to let go. She tells me her heart still loves for me and still wants to be here and that there is still hope for me and that I am the best boyfriend and only boyfriend who genuinely loved her, but her mind says no. I ask her to let me know if she wants me to stay or go but she wont be direct. Why? My second question is, after all this, I sent her an email sat. I told her that I still love her and that seeing each other right now won't benefit us right now and that maybe sometime in later we can try and establish something and maybe even want to try our love again. She has her things to work on as I do. I told her that even though it may hurt me if she were to move on, if the guy makes her happy apart of me will be happy that she is. I also told her that I am still here for her and will be here for her if and whenever she needs me. Was that a good decision or bad? I really love her a lot but the issues of the past between us still are in her mind and she is having a hard time letting it go. So I figured space and time would be a good thing. I don't want to move on but at the same time don't want to wait and she moves on. So confused right now. Additional Details One issue was my lack of trust in her, she had cheated on me in the begining of the relationship lied about it for 3 months and i finally got her to tell the truth. She didnt have sex with him, but it is still cheating. i truely forgave her and didn't get angry and lash out at all. I asked her not to be afraid to tell me the truth and be honest with me. she continued to hide things be them small or big. so i started to become insecure and my temper started to show. I have noticed it and worked on it since(more control now bt still there) I never know if it is the truth but I give her the benefit of the doubt. Another issue is that I feel she is being very distant and making up excuses to not see me. Not saying all of the time, she is in college to get her credentials, but at the same time she has time to hang out with friends. She says I criticize her all the time and I do, but at the same time she does something or says something that brings me to call her on it because it bothers Here are the issues she has with me from what she tells me: 1). I ask her for to much time. 2). she has some issues with being comfortable around me(my temper) 3). I always act the same and do the same things. 4). I have an issue with communicating with her because she is very sensitive and I am not understanding (when I don't agree) 6). She has a hard time trusting and believing that I haven't been out meeting other girls or doing things with other girls since we broke up 7). My Temper My Issues with her are: 1). Don't feel she is being completely honest with me all the time. 2). Wanting her to meet me half way 3). She still holds me to how things were toward the end of the relationship 4). Feel she doesn't appreciate me 5). Tells me that I am mostly to blame for the break up 6). can't handle getting criticism but sure can give it to me 7). Feel like she makes excuses 8). She has her guard up and feel like I have no room to work with. I 1nder sometimes if theres someone else alrdy?

• Answer:

  I think you are wasting your time on her. Shes been nothing but dishonest to you and you still want her back? That's like asking for trouble and Im not trying to be mean but it sounds like she wants to be free and live her life, and you will be waiting for her when all the jerks break her heart so she can use you to be there for her. If I were you I would surely move on because you can't have a relationship with a person this incompatible.