What are the "disqualifying mental disabilities" for government jobs?

Why have all the friends and love ones i have mad at me because i got accepted for disability?

• I worked all my life to the best of my ability. i have always had a problem with paying attention to things. i tried to go to a technology center after high school but i couldnt comprehend the things i needed to graduate. i had to take what jobs i could get. my first one was very physically demanding i had to work on tractor tires and timberjack tires etc. i started having back pain at work when i was about 21. my gp treated me for 7 years for pulled muscles. after giving up on that, i finally went to a bone and joint clinic. they did an mri, and found i had 2 very bad degenerated discs, and dextrocurvature of the spine. i went through physical therapy with no results. i had nerve epidurals with no results. finally it came time to have a lower lumbar fusion operation in which they removed the lowest 2 discs that were bad and grafted bone from my pelvis to pack in place of the discs and connected them with 2 rods in order for them to fuse together. i never got any relief after my surgery. i tried everyplace to get relief. on top of all this im bipolar, have acute anxiety disorder, ocd, and still cant comprehend learning things unless i can teach myself. i tried for a year to get a job being that my former employer relieved me of my job as soon as my surgeon said that i could try to work on light duty. i had many opportunities, but as soon as they found out that i have had back surgery, they treat me like i have the plague. i was still living with chronic pain but yet i still tried to get back to work, because i didnt want to have to be supported by the government. after going almost a year i finally had to swallow my pride and apply for disability. i was on 28 at the time of my surgery and im 31 now, and my other discs and facet joint are continuing to degenerate. after 2 years i finally got approved for disability this past april. im still able to get out and walk on my good days but not very far. on my bad days i cant seem to get out of my bed. my so called friends only see me on the days im able to walk around because thats when i get out to try to forget about everything, including my depression. its hard enough for me to accept having to have help from the government, but now ive learned that some of the people i had as friends for many years, have been putting me down behind my back, not even knowing all the facts. im so heartbroken. i have always needed friends to help me up when my physical and mental problems got me down. now i dont know who to trust. nothing has ever hurt me worse than having people say im faking my disability, because u cant see it when im walking on a good day, except for a minor limp. these people dont know what i have to live with everyday, just because they see me visiting people and laughing from time to time to just to keep from crying. they all know about my back problems, but none no of the mental ones. only God, my family, my doctors and the u.s. government know about that. its just so hard to feel like a man when i cant work for a living and have to accept help. now i have people calling me lazy and a liar behind my back. i try to keep my faith in God, and dont get me wrong, i love Him. He has really shown me he is in charge every since this ordeal began. i was raised to love people, and i never judge anyone, because i have never walked in their shoes, but everyone seem to be doin the exact opposite to me. i know i shouldnt let these things get to me, because the good Lord knows that i have enough to deal with, with my disabilities. its sad to be somewhere and not know who is looking at me like im a lazy bum. they take for granted their health and complain about having to work, and when i hear that, i always tell them that i wish i could trade places with them. they all say i really bet you do, because you have it made. i have to look at myself in the mirror everyday and feel worthless because of it all. now i have to worry about what people think of me on top of that. its a heavy burden and i dont know where to turn. i try to turn it all over to God but evedentially my faith isnt strong enough to see the purpose of these things. if anyone can give me any uplifting words of encourage after reading this please do so. if you have negative things to say about me without knowing me, dont even attempt to make a comment about this. i dont need anymore people to tell me that im a lying lazy bum! thanks for reading this if anyone does! God Bless! Bryan C.

• Answer:

  Hi Bryan c having lived with a disability all my life, i know of your troubles, but let say one thing here you are you. you know day to day what you can and can not do so make the best of the good days and suffer in silence when the days are bad. expressing discomfort is the usual problem for others, they can't feel it so they have little or no sympathy. so enjoy the sunshine and the flowers and bird song when you can and someone will find you. conversation and an interest in something other than self is the best way forward.