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  • Hello everyone, I am 19 years old and I live in Cambridgeshire which is in the UK. I have got a long situation and I will explain it to you, please read and help me as I really do need help, I don't know what else to do. Here is the situation. My mum had 5 children including me, and out of those 5 children she had I am the only one who has got a mild learning difficulty and my 3 brothers and 1 sister all went to mainstream schools, I went to a special needs school. At school I got a G in maths and an E in Art. My older brother and my younger brother call me names such as physco, spast.c, reta.d, mentle and useless and a waste of space, I am currently unemployed and I have never had paid employment but I have got 18 months of retail experience (Voluntary) I have worked at the Co-Op and at Tesco. And I have just recntly started as a volunteer at Oxfam and I have just recently started a maths level 2 qualification too, and also I have got a level 2 in Adult Literacy and I should be finishing my Gold Duke of Edinburgh award this year. My brothers say that I am stupid and thick and that no one will ever give me a job and they say I can't even get a job stacking shelves at a local supermarket. I live with my older and younger brother and with my dad too, and when I tell my dad about the names and the things they say to me my dad don't listen or do anything. He doesn't seem to care and when I was helping to wash up yesterday my dad even called me a physco. Just a little while ago my older brother started an argument and I told him to pi.. off when he was walking away then he sprinted back up the staires and into my room and he went to kick and punch me but at the last moment pulled away. I wouldn't really do anything back as he is amuter/semi pro MMA fighter (Mixed Martial Arts) and he would easily get the better of me and he knows this and after nearly hitting and kicking me he walked off and as he did he called me a little reta.d and he said I got dumped by a 16 year old. (My ex dumped me about a month ago now) Please don't say that brothers are meant to do this becasue they aren't meant to go this far and say the things they do. They even say at times how they want me to be dead and wish that I got hit by a bus. And one of them even says he wants to kill me and wishes so much that I was dead. And I can't go back and live with my mum as there is no room in her house, and I can't stay with any of my friends, as I don't really have any, and I can't stay with any family either. My youth worker says that she is very proud of me as I am working very hard to get a job and to acheive the things I want to in life. What can I do, I can't live here much longer what should I do and who should I talk to? I really need to get out of here, can someone please help me? I really do wish that I was dead then things might be easier and I won't be hurt soo much. Please help me I really need it. Thank you sooo much in advance I am very greatful.

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    I feel terrible for you! That doesn't sound like much fun. Ok I could tell you what to do but I'll do you one better: if you're willing to come to London, there are some people here who I know that just perform miracles with things like this. This is the website of someone who my friend swears by: http://www.harleysthypnotherapy.com/ He totally changed my friend's life. She was an abused child, had several phobias and fears, almost never left the house and now she's just not that person. We go out regularly, she has a relationship with her parents again and she's much happier. If he can't help then i'm sure he knows someone who can.

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i read your question and If i was u, i wud date some pretty girl and live together with her far away from dad and bros(change of country even). You cud always visit them right? Yeah dat wud work

I live in the US, so I don't know exactly what resources are available in the UK. But here most communities have independent living programs. They help you find employment with companies that have agreed hire their people. They also have group homes. They teach you skills for independent living and you have a supportive environment. You said you have a youth worker. Ask what programs are available. You might want to look into getting a counselor to help you deal with what is clearly an abusive environment at home. Keep working hard and look out for yourself.

I think that your youth worker would be the person that you should talk to about this. There has got to be some program that will assist you. I think that if your youth worker cannot help you then you should go to Health and Welfare or Human Resources, and see what they can do for you. I hope that you will get out of the abusive place that you are living in. Have you talked to your dad about moving out and see what he has to say? There has to be something available. Congratulations on the Gold Duke of Edinburgh award. That is something that you must be proud of. I hope that you will be able to have all of the benefits of a single man living there. I hope you will have a good life. Good luck.

To be honest you sound like a decent lad, and instead of being a dosser you are actually going out, and building a future for yourself, that I think deserves recognition in itself. About the sibling situation, just block yourself out. Why do you let the names get to you? I was beaten up by my older brother for years and my sister always called me names, I just grew up and learnt to deal with it. Listen to music, find a passion (etc mines football) and just submerse yourself in that.

congratulations on your GOLD duke of edinburgh award, what an achievement! you say you have a youth worker ask them there are assisted living places, you either have a small flat of your own in a complex with help on hand, and people help you learn how to budget money, apply for benefits etc or you get the same help but live 3 or 4 in a house and someone lives in permanently to help you you sound like you would qualify for either speak to your support worker, if they dont know, they will know who does good luck, i hope you are soon settled in your own place

Hi Dan - you sound like a really good guy. PLEASE don't believe what your brothers or dad say when they say horrible things to you. It is not you. It is their ignorance and intolerance that makes them treat you the way they do. Believe in and rely on the support of your youth worker. Talk to her about your situation and tell her that you feel very strongly that to be able to get on in life you need to leave home. If you are able to look after yourself properly and claim some benefits as well as getting a job there surely is no reason why perhaps you can't go and live near your mum so that she is around to help you. Be strong and believe in yourself and your abilities, even if they are limited. You count in this world.

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