Why has nothing ever gone my way?

Wow, i feel you, im 16, i havnt really had any bullying, but i have been made fun of for smelling like ciggarete smoke because of my damn parents, and thats made me really insecure, for all the stuff i go through and seen, its def matured me too. I think your goals are amazing, there just like mine, just do good in school and you will have a good life when your older, i feel like nothing ever goes my way either, partying and all that bs isnt really all that great its sloppy and gross, but anyways keep your head up kid and you will make it through this harsh reality of a life we all endure !

People who experience family problems and bullying at an early age tend to either end up as successful and strong individuals(Oprah Winfrey, Tulisa Contostavlos etc.) or as shipwrecks. If they are able to rise to the challenge and keep fighting for their dreams, they are likely to do well. If they break, then they end up on a spiral going downwards. It sounds like you are doing really well but make sure you stick to your goals. Keep working hard towards that vision of success and finding a good girl (who will treat you as well as you treat her) and you will be very successful. The one thing that you will need to do is accept that just because people have not gone through what you have, it does not mean their problems are insignificant or their advice is shabby. If you cannot emphasize with others, you will not be able to form a true relationships easily. Sometimes in life you have to be able to emphasize with a friend who is angry about something seemingly small when you know how lucky they are to even have that problem to worry about.

I'm really sorry about the bullying. You really need to deal with that the best way you can, it sucks and the victims of bullying should not be left to pick up the pieces. If it happens at your new school, please tell someone. I could say how irresponsible it was of your dad but I'm sure he knows himself. Try and re-build this relationship? Or at least connect with another family member. I understand about the relationships. I feel the same way but for me I think it's just jealousy. You may be jealous too, or just resentful you don't have the same kind of relationships. It's easy to say "Have fun!" when you're at a low point, but you just got to make the best of everything. You don't have to have fun in the way other people do, like partying and stuff. People are different find something you like to do. You have your priorities straight, seriously, not many 14 year old's seem to care about grades. I don't know what to suggest but try something new or change something, but try and deal with your feelings. See a doctor about the anxiety? But seriously you don't have to do a thing it's your life, just trying to give some advice.

The people who have faced hardships in life at an early age are the ones that truly succeed in life because they know how to handle situations like this. It's the as*holes and bullies who find out later that what they did was wrong and there's no taking back what they've done. Not to mention they don't know how to handle the real cruel world. I am really sorry for your situation no matter how light it may seem just by reading a response on yahoo answers. I was bullied excessively in middle and high school to the point that it damaged my self esteem horribly bad. Just recently I have done some recovering, but i'm not fully there yet. As it stands, you're 14. Life gets alot better when you hit an older age, believe me. Your struggling will only make you stronger overtime. I'm a prime example as I was bullied almost everyday my 8th grade year. You can get by man. You honestly don't need someone by your side, but i guarantee you'll find a really close friend soon enough. If not, then you can still focus on the brightside that you have you, and you can never hurt yourself. Your priorities are incredible, and you're a young adult role model. I'm not just saying that, as your outlook on life is something that kids don't realize until they hit 17 or 18. The future is a good thing to look forward to, and once you get past all the bulls*it it's like you're hitting the end of a rainbow. You have matured very quickly, and that's far from a negative thing! You can now focus on making yourself happy and boosting your self esteem. you are an amazing individual and people don't have to know it for it to be true. Keep your head up all the time. Don't let any bullies bring you down. Don't let any adults tell you you can't do something. I believe you can. If you need anything, I'm just a message away and I can help you through all of this. By the way, i'd say 9/10 relationships in high school don't last a month, so you're correct there. And if you wanna know about me, I'm gonna turn 18 next month. Anyway, just shoot me a message if you need me. If not, that's fine too. I love you man, I care about you. Stay positive

I'm sixteen years old. I seriously know exactly what you're going through. I've never had a boyfriend because I find all the guys in my school immature, i have no interest in having a little playmate boyfriend that will break up with me or cheat on me within a week. Honestly, you sound like a really nice guy and I wish I could find a guy like you. Don't question your schoolwork, focus on thy as your priority right now. I'm a straight a student and my mom mentally/emotionally abuses me. I'm hardly ever happy, and knowing that my good grades will get me into a good college and a better life is the thing that keeps me going. you do have to make time for friends, though, for balance. My two best friends and I are tight and without being completely attached and inseperable, we hang out and just chill. Pay attention the the quiet people around you and you'll find a friend where you least expect it. Keep an open mind. Sometimes i overthink things, too, which causes me some problems. Keep your head up because in four years you'll be going to college and starting a whole new life. I'm so sorry for what you're going through, but i know from experience that you have to keep pushing through the bad to get to the good. It will happen eventually, just give it time. Just know you're never alone

I can identify. I think the people saying have a good time are unrealistic. But you are alright. The bullying crap was less common in my day but the whole thing is not to let it affect your self-image. That is what they want. But you rightly know there is a future--possubly not for them. High school will be unique in life as the place where all classes meet, with mixed results. Only thing is for a man saying he wants marriage, you might hit on a serious chick who thinks a man should do more. If you love such a woman you have problems. Better off with a nice squaw-- any day.