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  • Im nearly 20 and have been together with my partner who is 40 for nearly a year. I absoutley love him to bits we met through work so i see a lot of him but we always seem to make it work. The problem started around 4 months ago when he seemed to loose his interest in sex. When we first met he couldnt keep his hands off me and sometimes we would literally do it 4-5 times a day. Now i obviously know that it was never going to stay like that but it has gone down to once a month and there has been another problem whenever we do have sex he keeps losing his errection during intercourse. Beeing a girl first thing i did was blame myslf and it has made my self esteem really low. He is still so very caring always cuddling and kissing me thats never changed and he still makes me happier than anyone ever has. We attempted sex the other day the first time in 5 weeks and after about 5 mins he lost his errection again. I completly broke down and we had a big talk he said he doesnt know why he has lost his sex drive and that we can sort it out he says its not my fault and i shouldnt be blaming myself. Ive always said i would never write 1 of these and bore anyone with my problems but i dont know what else to do its not somthing i can discuss with my friends as i feel they would just think i was a crap lover. Ive been reading on the internet alot and sometimes stress has a lot to do with it and during these past 6 months he has been under a lot of pressure with money worries and he is currently having to sell his home and downgrade to pay of some of his debts. I really am grateful for any advice any one has, Is it me?? Does he not fancy me anymore? Thanks for your time!! xx

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    Its not you , I'm sure its bothering him as well. Men do know whats changed and have feelings. That's the most likely reason you only make love once a month. He knows what took place last time and hurts his ego. I know the age is one thing but 40 isn't a death sentence for lack of stamina or his erection. For now stress & worry make have taken over his natural way but Im sure he still does fancy you! Have a adult talk with him, he might not want to talk about it with you or his family doctor. But by telling him how good he makes you feel when making love will make him want to find out whats wrong. Stress and worry most likely. For now doctor can tell him take a blue pill (if med allowed) for the time being and in time stress will be less and can do it without medication.

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Well yeah, the 4-5times a day was bound to drop, but his performance now, that is a bit odd. It could just be the stress as you say. Do you trust him? Could it possibly be that he may be seeing someone else behind your back? I know it may seem unlikely, but yeah it comes down to trust and all that. How about lighting some candles, chucking on some lingerie and really heating it up. See if that has an affect. It could be that he's bored of the way you guys have sex. Try something new and if that doesn't work than re-think the situation. Hope it all turns out xo :)

Sweetheart, it is not you. When was the last time he had a physical? I would suggest that he visit a Doctor and tell the Doctor what the problem is with his sex drive and lost of erection. Hope it helps. Good Luck

It's not you, it's the stress from his money worries and of course now the pressure and fear that he might fail again. He's also aware that you're just 20 years old and he's 40 this will put more pressure on him, because he might think you're going to leave him if he doesn't perform well enough, this again puts MORE pressure on him and he keeps failing.... So, the best thing you can do is not to put any pressure on sex right now. Just cuddle and hold each other, etc... don't initiate sex. Give it time and things might change.

He could try viagra but I will tell ya what, that stuff sucks. The side effects are terrible. Has he ever tried a sexual enhancer? I was in his situation, like I said, viagra was tried but it wasn't for me considering the side effects overwhelm the pleasures of it. I found this natural herbal enhancer and figured what the heck, if it's natural it must be great and plus it said no side effects. I tried it and after about two days of taking it I was just horny like a mad man. All the time, I have erections that want to stand straight up and the orgasms are to die for. The stuff was called vigrx plus and I saved on it at the time at http://hughs-reviews.com, You should tell him to check it out. I love the fact it's made from a researched blend of herbs that seem to do the trick for me atleast. Good luck and I hope this helps.

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