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How do I get over my insecurity from a break up?

• On July 5th, 2011 my boyfriend/fiance broke up with me of 1 year. The reason I say fiance is because he always referred to me as his wife. Well, 2 weeks after he broke up with me, he said if I wanted to, it could be my choice to get back together. He wanted to, but it was my decision. And so, here we are today, in a domestic partnership, I live with him and his parents due to some personal issues between me and my parents. Anyway, when he broke up with me, it was the worst day of my life. Literally. I think that day out does the day my beloved maine coon cat died in my arms. At least then I knew my cat was in a better place, and gone. I missed him dearly. But with my boyfriend... I knew he was still alive and out there. After breaking my heart. And taking my iphone away from me. (It was under his name though...he got the contract started in his name, with his and my phone, so yeah. It was his. But still!) Well now, the only issue is just my insecurity. You see, he said he was done with me July 1st. He just wanted to break up with me in person. And on July 4th, he was hanging out with a girl named Stephane west. A friend of his. And I know many of you will say he was screwing her or whatever, or he was cheating on me before he broke up with me or whatever, but you don't know him, and he has morals and he would never do that. We've talked about it, and if either of us ever want to get with somebody else, we'll break up. He's been loyal to me, and she's just a friend of his. That's all. None of his other guy friends wanted to hang out. Anyway, things are better now. And tomorrow I get to meet this Stephane face to face, after everything that's happened. My insecurity is this. If my boyfriend will ever break up with me again. BOTH he and his mom have said that another break up is possible. Why? Is something like that just inevitable? Is that what young couples do? Break up for a few times until they finally settle down? I don't understand. I have an old soul for my age, that's what everybody that knows me tells me. I'm 21, but people say I act like I'm in my 30's. I'm very mature, and I just want a steady, healthy, happy relationship. I don't "want" another break up, and get back together and all that ****. I just would rather have a fight, be pissed at each other for a couple days, sleep in opposite bedrooms, then make up. Breaking up, is not worth it. He says though, he wants to marry me. His mom, my mother-in-law always refers to me as her daughter. And Tyler, my boyfriend, says that it's just because one day we will get married. He always talks about "our kids" in the future. What they're going to be like etc etc. He tells me he loves me everyday, he pays for my phone...he takes care of me. Hell, he let me move into his house, with his parents, and in his bedroom. I love the man to death, but that break up...has made me so insecure. And I'm never like that. Yes, I was one of those girls who thought that that would never happen to me. I'll be with him forever. Yeah, right.... well. It was bound to happen. Everybody gets their heart broken. It's an unfortunate part of life. I just don't want him to do it again. That's it. That's all I want. And I just want to get over my insecurity of that. It's just draining me emotionally and mentally.

• Answer:

  listen to your heart