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How do you recover from being a victim of bullying all your life?

  • I'm 25 and the memories are still affecting me and I'm still suffering to this day. Being bullied, used and whatnot. I know that everyone goes through this at some point in their life, but most people recover from it.. why can't I? :( The reason I'm asking for help is that now I've found myself to have an anti-social/paranoid nature + low self esteem because the the experiences that I went through.. and it's starting to affect my social life and my love live (no trust, always reluctant to interact, etc) I've improved so much since then. I look good and I have a husband whom I love and is caring and I don't want to ruin our relationship. I also want to be able to start to have a more active social life.. I mean, I have many "frienimies" and acquaintances, none of whom I really trust because where I come from, people being backstabbing = default. I want to be over it and I want closure.. I really don't want this affecting me anymore :( I felt like I should mention that I already have an education (uni graduate with honors) and I've worked up till 6 months ago (finding a job at these times can take time, but I'm trying). I've added this because many people like to answer "get an education/job" to everything.. As I've said I'm doing well, but the problem is that no matter which setting I'm in and no matter what I've accomplished, my self esteem and the relationships with people are the problem, because I cannot get past my many negative experiences. I also really don't want to go to counseling :(

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    Best way to beat being a victim of bullying is by bullying others. Do onto others what you had happen to you. Try it.

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oh,............................ sh.................it wish i'd read the last sentence first.....:) i had same problems as you at almost the same age.........(maybe a couple years younger) I went to counselling.....had the best counsellor boosted everything that needed boosting...... he was WONDERFUL......AMAZING...... you need to talk to someone (independent), other than your husband....or family, or friends, someone unbiased, who doesn't know you-anything about you YOU have to tell them, and then they help you.... it really does help.... as far as friends-well if they're meant to be your friends, they will be there when all is done..... i have 1 best friend and 2 true friends, they are my husband and my sister...... anybody else is an acquaintance and that's the way we like it... almost 24 yrs since my visit with a counsellor 20 yrs with my husband 14 of them married 2 beautiful children happy happy happy Good Luck

You need to realise that everyone is insecure. Fake it until you make it. It works.

If you don't want to go to counseling then it really isn't bothering you. There is free counseling also!

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