Has anyone worked at "The Childrens Place"?

Cant get over heartache, what am I going to do. Need a place to rant.?

• recently just before christmas, i found out my girl of nine years was seeing somone again. 3 years ago, i found out she was seeing one of my childhood friends, they messed around on our 5 year aniversary and it went on from there. she ended up sleeping with him by the riverbank outside. I took her back, because we had a family. I had graduated high school while working full time to support them. Got a good job, cleaning operating rooms at the hospital, after i accomplished all that, we moved into our home. A House, me her an our then 3 year old son. Well 3 years later, she was seeing another guy, and was paying lots of attention to him. I found out he was coming over to my house when i was at work. During these 3 years, he siblings had moved in and out because her parents didnt want to care for them. Her mom was so nasty and abusive they wanted to move out. They tried with there dad, hes an alcoholic, n has never rented his own place since the nine years ive known them. Her sisters had lived with us and was a real hard esecially financial wise. She would leave me at home with them so she could go out. She left one night and didnt come back, found out she was this new guy that night an they slept in the same room. I told her at the time one of us should leave, and she did she agreed. took her sister and left. We seen eachother again on christmas, and we agreed to start dating kind of. I really wanted to try and forgive her just to keep our family together. She seemed like she wanted to too. But in the month that followed, she never tried, i told her i was still in love, she said she loved me too. She didnt want to spend time with me and it hurt. everytime i had to see her, she was dressed up and ncie makeup. but she didnt want to see me. I eventually moved out, out son is still only four, an i really believed this was the right thing to do for him, give him up to his mom for awhile. I moved out. n only took a love seat an coffee table from the house. Now im sit alone at home, quuiet place, i miss them so much. I miss my girl so much. we talked more, an she said she still wanted to be with me. So seemed like we were going to be ok, just needed to sort out stuff in our own lives(mostly hers with her family, n other guys she was with,) I took the video camera recently from the house, because i wanted to use it. i was going through pictures, an a few happened to be with this certain guy, the same guy i left her because of. My son whos 4 knew exactly who he was. Told me this guys was staying with mommy in her room, and visiting lots. He told me he brought him some new games for the xbox, and was very nice to him, gave him a hug. then he said that he saw the kiss once. I havnt even been moved out from the house(our family home where she still lives with him) for a month. not even a month and this guy is already comfortable there. This guy is just a little gangster i think. Drinks, an probley dosnt even work, dosnt have his own place. an now hes over at my sons place with him an i cant do anything. Its hard to talk to anyone. My familys seems mad at me for leaving him. an really i have no real friendss only ones from work. i felt like i couldnt have friends, cause melissa always acted different if my friends did come over, and eventually she ended up sleeping with one of them,(3years ago) I dont know how to deal with this stuff, it seems so messed, shes never told me i did anything wrong. When we had our son, i was in grade 11 her in grade 10, i worked full time the last year of high school just so she didnt have to collect welfare or sumthing. when i got my job in the operating rooms, with 0 hours seniority they offered me a 3/4 full time postion, 12 hour shifts. This is wat fed our family and got us into or house. I worked lots, melissa barley ever cleaned, the house, she was hardly home, She made no effort to do anything unless i finally got mad at her to do anything. the she found work, an those problems escalated. After that it seemed she didnt do a single thing. I stayed with her despite everything and she hadnt changed in 3 years. She spent all her extra time, worrying out her siblings an pleasing her drunk dad. So much effort but none to me an my son. I dont understand where things went wrong. Really i want to end my life, the only thing that keeps me around is my little boy, he means everything to me. I cant stand the fact though that she was letting this guy do this kind of stuff in front of my son. i could understand that it would have happened evertually, but not this soon. This guys a goof, i just dont get it. really i dont know wat steps to take from here. i cant even concentrate on anything. i can barley even do anything with my boy. I just want to call her. and ask her why, we were talking lots, but now it seemed she just turned off her phone. I dont know what to do. Im going nuts and cant stop myself. I want to do something bad, but once i do i will lose my job. I want to start drinking.

• Answer:

  It's good that the guy is nice to your son, don't start drinking; it doesn't solve anything. I think you need to move on and get visitation with your son.