Where can i find a cheap holiday to spain?

Girlfriend on holiday and other such stuff?

• Ok, me and my girl been together for 2 years (she's 20) and I love her so much. She recently went on holiday with her mates to Spain. We have a bit of a long distance thing anyway (i see her of lot of weekends). We talk every day and have done for years. But when she was away (with a bunch of her class mates) we never spoke at all on the phone, even though I sorted ways to call her hotel room. She did AIM when she got back at night but normally for a few minutes because she was exhausted from sight seeing or from being out at bars and clubs and what not. I feel like she put her friends way above me to not find any time, not even 10 minutes to talk to me. I know she was out dancing and drinking and generally partying. I also know she got hit on a lot, she's drop dead gorgeous, like traffic stopping good. I'm less worried about her misbehaving than I am about the feeling of being neglected. I know she had one of the best weeks ever (her words) and I'm worried that she had a better time with her mates than she ever has with me, as soon at they came back they were organizing another trip next year to the tropics! No mention of arranging a holiday with me. Her family don't really approve of me so she has to lie a lot to come away with me, she wouldn't let me come to Ireland because it made her feel guilty about lying (even though she didn't tell her family about the drinking and partying). I'm gutted by this feeling that she has a better more fun life with her mates than with me, its overwhelming me I'm gutted by this feeling that she would arrange and save money for another party holiday with her friends but not with me. And that holiday is going to a place that I want to take her I'm gutted that she couldn't even find time to call me when in Spain (OK the class had full itineraries, but no time at all in a whole week. ) Its making me feel like I'm observing her life and not sharing in it. I'm conscious that there are my issues at work here, and that I may be squeezing her to hard. I can't stop her doing anything obviously, but I just don't like this feeling. I'm older than her and I'm worried that she see me more as this responsible mellow boy friend who is good for coffee dates and restaurants but I'm not one to go partying with. I don't even know her friends. I want commitment and to plan things together. And I'm aware that I'm exaggerating a lot of stuff and when i talk to her about it i become very conscious of that and feel guilty. I'm worried that talking to her about it will just push her over the edge and I'll lose her and I really feel this girl is the one for me and don't want to make a mistake. Any thoughts? Am I wrong on every count here?

• Answer:

  Yes you are wrong on every count! Look for one, you guys are 20 years old. If you love her you will let her have her own separate life. You sound like you're getting obsessed which is NOT good. When someone goes out of town they are there to enjoy themselves and the city they are in with the people she is with. She will share her joy with you LATER. You need to support all her activities that she does without you because at the end of the day, you supported her and she will appriciate you for supporting her. You will lose her if you hold too tight. We all have separate lives with different people. It won't work if you expect 24/7 from her. Remember, when you hold sand in the palm of your hands, open, it stays in the harder you squeeze the less you have in your hands. What do you want?