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My girlfriend is going down to JMU without me. Should I worry?

  • She has been wishy-washy (cant make up her mind) on a bunch of stuff, including: 1- one second she says i can go, the next second she says i cant go cuz her female friend wont let me stay in her dorm. now im not giong for good, i b*tched out and just accepted it. 2- at first she was saying she wasnt gonna drink except with me, IF i said it was cool. then after i said i was willing to stay home cuz of her friend, she said she MIGHT DRINK at the party. Then only after i pointed out she promised shed never drink without me, AND the fact she sorta-cheated (we were committed but not officially dating on facebook), did she FINALLY agree to not drink. But it took some convincing, and she CLEARLY WANTS TO. 3- theres a guy down at JMU who she made out with in june (we started dating in mid august). She used to like this guy and has known him for awhile. She denies still liking him, however she says she plans on "talking to him as friends" at JMU. 4- She has been acting really weird, and today she was LOOKING for excuses to break up (so she didnt haev to bring me to JMU im assuming). I think her friend saying no was a cop out or something. 6- The ONLY THING that is stopping me from totally sketching out, is this: She agreed that I could come down to JMU with my friends and stay in their dorm, and that we could HOOK UP EACH DAY. But that she WANTS SPACE to be with her and her friends, and ALL WE WOULD BE DOING is seeing each other for like an hour or 2 at most each day, just to hook up, and that she DOESNT WANT TO SEE ME AT THE ACTUAL PARTIES (which is sketching me out as well). 7- on skype, she was saying how she wanted a break and to "just let her go". Then she was saying how if i trusted her and let her go to JMU, we could date. Basically: all paths point to JMU. She says its just her friend (the girl who i know) who she wants to see and hasnt seen in forever. BUT THEIR BOTH SINGLE. So im sketched out. ============== Ok here are my questions: 1- Why is she ok with me coming down to JMU with my friends, and shes ok with hooking up with me... BUT shes not ok with me going with her to any parties even if im already there? 2- Do you think she is going to drink at this party? Shes a typical party drinker and she promised me she wouldnt drink. However shes broken promises before. (EXAMPLE: PROMISING NOT TO PARTY AT ALL, OR GO TO COLLEGES FOR WEEKENDS AT ALL, WITHOUT ME!). 3- Do you think she is going to cheat this weekend at JMU? 4- She was saying that she DIDNT want me coming AT ALL to JMU and that if i did, all she would do is say "hi" to me..... and she was saying how i should just "let her go".... only AFTER i threatened to message this guy (kenny) that she made out with in june who goes there, ONLY THEN DID SHE SAY I COULD COME DOWN AND WE COULD HOOK UP THIS WEEKEND. whats this mean? does it mean she really wants this guy? ============ NOTE: THIS GIRL LOST HER VIRGINITY TO ME AND SHES BEEN REALLY PRESSED, BUT LATELY NOT SO MUCH.

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    1- She wants to keep you as a backup. She's looking for some real excitement, but it's not with you. Suppose her life is really boring and such, she likes to know she can always come back to you as a last resort. 2- If it looks like people are having a great time and everyone is drinking, she'll drink too. If it's totally lame and nobody drinking she'll stay sober. 3- She probably won't cheat, but she is definitely looking for the opportunity. 4- Just message the guy and do it without asking her. She'll gain some respect for you. You're acting too much like a puppy dog and that's a big turnoff. Get some balls. Girls like men that take charge with confidence. She has you wrapped around her little finger. You have to be willing to lose the girl to actually get the girl. If she wants to go down there looking to screw around, tell her you are not interested in being with her anymore. If she cares, you have a chance and you can turn it around. If she doesn't care, this girl is a big waste of your time. Tell her like it is and stick to it. Stop letting her dictate. Your feelings are not her personal play toy and being a backup isn't good enough.

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I really think she is cheating or is going to cheat. I think you should just break up with her. She is seriously shady! What kind of gf would really act like that? You don't deserve to be treated like that!

im a girl, i know what shes doing, its super sketchy and shes trying to manipulate you, shes definitely gonna see other guys otherwise she would have TOLD HER FRIEND TO LET YOU COME." lol you told me to write that i don't have to think much now xD

okk i stopped reading at point 4 because she is obviously not being faithful to you and its not healthy, you need to find someone better than that whatever shes saying about you not being able to come no matter what, is bullshit every couple iv known of have gone out to every event together. and the fact that your even asking all this shows that this relationship isnt right i hope things work out the best for you :)

Damn right you better be worried. Either shes definitely gonna cheat or shes gonna try and break up with you so she can get with other guys. It sounds like she has plans with someone else and is trying to spit game on some other dude. What girlfriend tries that hard to avoid seeing her BOYFRIEND? I don't know anyone who goes to parties and doesn't drink so she will drink for sure. Like all relationships, trust is vital but with what you're saying, neither of you trust each other. I tried to think of a way to say this without making it sound so harsh.

It's all really suspicious to me.. She is obviously up to something because she wouldn't mind you being there. i think she wants to drink if im being honest. And she doesn't just want to see her friend because she wouldn't mind you coming like i said. If she is looking for excuses to break up then maybe you should break up with her. But ask her why first though , maybe she really IS innocent but it looks weird..

it seems like she wants her cake and being able to eat it too she's sounding very suspicious I say to just make you're life simple by cutting her out why would you want to be with someone who is indecisive she clearly does not know what she wants and breaks promises seems to me like she clearly cannot be trusted remember this is from my POV you know you're girlfriend better than any of us... answer this by yourself :has she always been like this from the start of your relationship ??? as for the drinking you said it yourself you pretty much answered your own question idk how long you two have been dating but I do think it would be a smart choice if you just let her go just like she said it saves a lot of heart ache good thing you know how she is now than finding out later and this ties back to the question I told you to answer by yourself hope all goes well =) email me if you'd like at [email protected] goodluck!!

I wouldn't trust this girl, you are perfectly right about it being sketchy and you are spot on being suspicious. I would call it quits with this girl, this disinterest act she's doing is going to destroy you. mine: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AiWXLDdIXENXCp9h0gxm44MazKIX;_ylv=3?qid=20111026140311AAkFblQ

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