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What's the point of living when you know you have had the best?

• Hey guys.. I'm looking for the ultimate answer. I must say - I have no intention of killing myself what so ever. Nor suicidal thoughts. I'm coming from a different place... I've been in love. I have had a girlfriend for 4 years. I am 22. She is almost 30. The minute I turned legal we told each other how we feel and became a couple. Now, as she is hitting her 30s, she understand that she has not much time left. She wants to move on (well, actually, she has moved on) and marry and have kids. We had to keep our relationship a secret seeing that we were friends with the same people before and our parents are very friendly as well. We sort of went on lying to the world about this. And it was okay for both of us. Until she reached a point that, as I said, she had to move on. I understand her. We certainly can not go and tell everyone that we were seeing each other. Besides, I am not a person who will go on and have kids in this life. I would marry her any day, buy I do not believe I am built for that... This is something I cannot describe in words. I mean, seriously: I know that when you hear when a person says that someone else means the world to him, it sure sounds far fetched. This woman, means the world to me. There's nothing I can say that would make understand how much I have, and still do, love her. It would get to a point that if one us was sad during the day, the other one would feel it. Even if we were 100 miles away. There were times when I would feel her craving for some kind of food from the other side of the country. I could read into her behaviors at so many times that I believe not a single person in this world could (even people who studied and mastered that). What I am trying to say here, that I really know that she is the one for me. When people say, "I just want to feel real love." I know that the just need to feel what I feel. Everything in our relationship was perfect. I mean, of course we had our ups and downs, but I know, I just know, not may people are as lucky as I am to have felt such strong unconditional love in their lives. Now, a month has passed since she had finished the relationship with me. We talk on the phone often. at least once a day, I have no doubt the people would say that it has to stop. But I truly don't believe that. I know that staying in touch with her will give me heartache. But my question isn't around what I should be doing next, nor how to get over the "one who got away". My question, and it really comes from a place a need, I need to know how to continue living, knowing that you had the very best. And it does make me so sad to say it, knowing no one will ever come even close to that kind of love. I know I will fall in love again. I know I will move on with my life. As I said, I am not a suicidal person. I just know, with all my heart and soul, that I will never be able to have such emotions to any other person, no matter how much I set my mind to it. I know that only time would tell, and I have given much thought before posting my question, I was really afraid there is no answer for this one. I hope any of you can find me one. I must say that I know I am extremely lucky to have felt what I have felt in the first place. And for that I thank god every day. I am also very sorry for my next partner, who would never know what she's missing out on. But mostly I am sorry for my ex, she has to move on, and every day is a struggle for her. I know how hard things are for her, and we still feel each other. Basically what I'm asking for here is to know how to move on.. But not... I need to know to live that the person I have lived for. the person who I did everything in my life for. Whom I dreamed to make happy and laugh every day... I have reached the climax in my life when it come to love, and from now on it's only downhill. If I needed to be showing this as a mathematical problem, I would explain that: Her an I HAVE to stay in touch, and go through things in life together sometimes. I will be seeing her at least once a month. I will be talking to her on the phone at least once a week. I will love her for ever. Even if I fall in love again. I will always have a place for her in my heart. How do I move on in life, know that I have had best. Obviously I treasured all I could. And you I know that you now know that I am probably the most thankful man on earth. But how do I find a reason, a...I don't know.. Somethings are just so priceless... I need help guys... I feel really really bad.....

• Answer:

  Well, I'm sorry for your loss. Just keep the lord on your side and pray for something great to happen that will turn your life around. If you wouldn't have said that you and her have to stay and touch my first thought to turn around your life is to end contact with her. I know this is not what you want to do, but honestly it is the best idea. Contact will just make you think more and more about her, and that wouldn't be helping your situation. Get a girlfriend and some buddies and start hanging out often, try to forget her in all and focus on the road in front of you, not the past. I know you said you didn't want to do these things, but this is the best way. If you absolutely must stay in contact with her, make them quick conversations. You do not need a deep conversation with an ex like that it will tear your heart into even more pieces. Like I said earlier just try to focus on the future and forget about the past. I know you loved her and you always will, but if she has found a significant other then in my mind that will be the only way to move on. Good luck with your life, keep God close and try to develop a new mindset with your walk with the lord, your friends, and maybe a new girl. God bless, I wish you the best of luck with moving on, i'm afraid this is all I can tell you.