How To Find Connections Between People?

Why am I unable to find anyone, that 27 year old virgin guy.?

• Realizing that there are other older virgins out there still doesn't help that I feel sorry for myself, or cry myself to sleep some nights. Little back ground (insert violin music here) I'm a 27 male who hasn't really dated since 5th or 6th grade (the I'm dating phase lol). This was not by choice no one was interested in me and often avoided me. One year no one would have anything to do with me, as if the entire school blacklisted me as that freak. Made a few friends in high school still none that I was comfortable with or that invited me out often, and when they did it just felt like they let me tag along out of pity. Got out of school still couldn't find anyone, lost contact with the few friends that I had and found it difficult to find new ones (not to say that people weren't friendly enough but still never found anyone to hang out with). Still no close friends or relationships or close connections. I've been told I have a great personality and am not that unattractive from several married couples who are surprised that I'm not involved with anyone. Now I find myself having no interest in even trying to get into a relationship or make new friends because of constantly being left on my own and never having any connections outside of work or family. Still I hate not having anyone to talk to (there's only so much you can talk to your family about) and I feel like I will never find anyone if I can't even get people to hang out with me or call to talk to me. I understand that people have their own lives and families or whatever the case may be but I don't have that person or people that I can go to about anything, and it's getting to the point that I feel that no one will ever want me because I'm defective in some way or no one sees enough in me to make an effort more than the "You're a great guy but" that I continue to hear. additional info- no religious hold backs just plain foul luck in making any connections and tired of people assuming I'm involved without even knowing me or not even taking any interest beyond mere acquaintances or asking for advice causing me to now be partially withdrawn and uncomfortable opening up to or getting close to people which is only making things worse. I have good communicating skills and people seem to be comfortable talking with me. anyway just wondering if anyone else feels like their blacklisted when it comes to finding close friends and love relationships

• Answer:

  Look, there have been times in my life that I could have gone down that path, but I'm a pretty lucky guy. Best advice: Get online, find clubs about things you like, and get out there meeting people. Most likely you won't meet someone directly, but you might through someone else you meet. I suggest bowling leagues (pizza and beer leagues where you don't have to be good) and movie clubs. In the end, its going to be about doing what you like and meeting someone inadvertently. Lastly, exercise! If you're like me, you hate it. But let's say you were told to exercise when you were 25 and you actually did it and got fit, would you be happier today? Exercising can suck, results are slow, and it takes time. Just don't do it the normal way, find a fun way to do it. You know, get a freaking Wii Fit or something (it actually kinda works). All I'm saying, is Jared the Subway guy aint that good looking but he gets laid!