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Why is my hubby acting this way?

• My hubby has 2 sons who are 15 and 18. They stay with us every weekend during the week they are with their mom. The 18 yr old graduated high school and has a full time job. The 15 yr old is in the 10th grade. The problem is my hubby does not make these boys do anything while they are at our house. My hubby has a very bad back and eventually he is going to have to under go surgery. However he will not make these boys help him. For instance this weekend we had a tv that needed moved and I told him to wait until his boys came over and ask them to move it along with the AC that needed taken out of the window. My hubby did it. Last weekend my hubby stacked and carried in a cord of wood into the basement while these kids sat in the livingroom playing Xbox. It breaks my heart to see my hubby walking hunched over or limping because he is in so much pain. He misses alot of work due to his back as well. Today my mother in law called and asked how his back was and I told her he was hurting but he moved the TV and AC and didn't ask the boys to help. I told her he was next door helping the neighbors move in. She asked where the boys were and I told her playing Xbox. She was furious. She came over and immediately jumped there butts. Telling them they needed to respect their dad, respect this house and start picking up after themselves and helping their dad out especially after everything he does and buys for them. The youngest one went crying to his dad next door. When they came back to the house, my hubby was babying this boy and wouldn't talk to me. I'm sorry but I agree with her even though it wasn't her place to say anything to the kids. My hubby needs to make them help out especially since his back is so bad. Last night the oldest one's truck battery blew up and we had to foot the bill for the new battery. A few weeks ago I suggested that we give the oldest one money for Xmas to help with new tires that he needs really bad on his truck. My hubby said "im sure he doesn't want tires for Xmas besides we can't afford them". Last week the boy's step-dad suggested to my hubby that we go together and buy the tires for him for Xmas and my hubby was agreeable on this idea. the step-dad gave $225 and said the boy didn't need bigger tires or the big fancy traction. He needed basic tires that would last him for awhile. My hubby agreed. Come to find out my hubby got the boy the big tires which cost more and we ended up having to pay $327 for our share which made up the difference from the basic tires. My hubby told the step-dad and their mother that he didn't want to make anyone mad but we weren't going to give the oldest boy gas money anymore because he needed to learn how to handle money. I told my hubby he didn't need to tell them anything. What we do with our money is our business not theres. Lastr Sun we woke up to our living room trashed from the boys having friends over the night before and playing Xbox all night. The lamps were on the floor along with candy papers, chips, books, clothes, spilled drinks and dirty dishes. My hubby cleaned up the mess and said nothing to the boys about it. When they leave on Sun they leave the Xbox games out, the wires strung across the floor and the dirty dishes every where. My hubby again cleans up after them. After a yr of seeing a stack of games sit on the TV that were never played and dust collecting I moved the games in the youngest boys room. On Friday he said "she needs to leave our stuff alone" He was meaning me. My hubby swears he didn't hear him say this but my daughter and her B/F heard it. I dont understand why my hubby becomes so defensive when anyone says anything about his kids. He is not doing them any favors by treating them this way. And I am sick of their messes. I am sick of spending every weekend in my room watching TV while they over take the living room and do nothing but play Xbox or watch their dad bust his butt carrying in wood, carrying out the trash, cutting grass etc. Why is my hubby acting this way?

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