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Who should I choose to marry.. the ONE that I love OR the ONE who is willing to wait for me?

• It was such a very emotional relationship that once existed before when I met this Canadian Ex Boyfriend of mine in one of the dating sites online. At first, we were back and forth with each other but he has always been the "one" who would make the first move for us. We just don't seem to compromise on the part of "intimacy" for he is the liberated one and I am on the conservative end. He did have his indecent marriage proposal with me already online and was about to see me personally in my country but I refused because he didn't bother to grant my request to see my friend who is just living in a nearby town in Canada . That gave me second thoughts about him that time. The relationship continued but I just can't agree with him being intimate online. That's when I decided to let go because of my morals and values in life that I uphold. I was so deeply hurt with what have happened between me and him because I did love him already. Until I've met this German guy online just after I broke up with the Canadian. The German guy and I do have the same principles in life that we value most. I did confide to him that I still love the Canadian that time but he did understand. The relationship went on until one day he already proposed and would want me to visit him in Germany and marry him later. He already sent me the official documents and the procedures that I would take to be with him. He would as well pay all the expenses. Unfortunately, it is still my heart over my head that time. I refused the proposal. Since the time that I broke up with the Canadian, he still chased me online but I just didn't bother to still be in touch with him because of the German guy. I was so confused so I decided to end up everything with the German. I managed to talked with the Canadian and he still, express his feelings for me but I felt so numb that time because of the thought that I might be so hurt again. I was not able to even confide what have happened with me and the German guy because of him. After awhile, I seldom see the Canadian guy online already not until I started to see some write ups about him and some girls online. That's when I finally decided to let go. I've deleted him already in all of my contacts online. And started to respond to some other suitors. After several months, he did send me an offline message saying: "How's everything?" I felt so happy and excited receiving his message but my pride prevailed thinking of what I've been seeing in the write ups about him. I managed to drop some few lines but I didn't bother to talk to him for long since I was at work that time. I was so confused again since I was about to commit myself already with one of my suitors. I decided to seek the advise of my parents this time and my father advised me to choose the Canadian guy which even confuses me this time because I seem to like already my present suitor because he is just like the German that we both share the same values. He as well know the Canadian and he used to tell me that he is willing to wait until the time that I would finally decide to give my whole heart and mind to him. Now, I decided to email the Canadian guy and told him everything that have happened with me starting with the German guy. I've asked him to let me know his final stand if I would still consider him as one of my choices to be the next and the last man in my life with whom I would pledge my last vow. It was barely almost 3 weeks ago that he haven't responded yet to my email. If I would trace back from before, he does not really respond to my emails but would rather chat with me online. Now, I am so concerned of what will be his stand with the two of us. Would I still wait for his reply or would I still wait for us to talk it over online? OR just to simply let him go forever this time? BUT he is the one that I love since the very start. What should I do with my Canadian Ex Boyfriend that I've loved so much and is continuously chasing me online?

• Answer:

  Have you ever met him face to face? If not then you are in a touchy situation. I would never accept a marriage proposal with out meeting the person face to face, You can say anything on paper, but really not mean it. He hasn't contacted you, so he is just using you as a pawn in a game he is playing. Have you tried to find someone to date where you live? I know sounds silly to have someone there to talk to each day, go on dates, enjoy each others company to really get to know them. I think you are playing with fire myself, but it is your life to live how ever you want.