My wifes vacation she spent the weekend of my birthday with her twin and Ieft me home aIone.?

get some help or pack your things

Sounds like you need to take charge of your life and your wishes here. Go out this weekend. Call a friend. Go somewhere loud and crazy. Enjoy yourself. It's YOUR birthday. Start making some changes and standing up for you. State what you want and when she stomps on it without compromise do what you will. As long as you do not do it out of spite or resentment. No one person can make another entirely happy. You are responsible for you own happiness. If she doesn't want to be a part of what will make you happy...so be it...but don't skulk in the corner about it. Now lets get this straight. I didn't say cheat on her. If she is making you less important...make her less important. Not tit for tat...have class. Don't "forget" her birthday. Make plans to visit your folks over the holidays if they live a distance away. You have a right to do that. Or an old friend. Or a weekends getaway. Tell her you made the plans and offer for her to go but don't act like it's essential. "I'm going to Sam's over Christmas do you want to come or will you be at your sisters?" Apparently you don't have kids, I would make sure it stayed that way for a while and let her know that if you aren't first in her life then you don't need more distraction from children.

We haven't celebrated birthdays or Christmas in the last 15 years. We do more than enough for each other throughout the year. We feel why have a day that is mandatory that we do something for each other. When it far better to just to it for the other when the time arises through out the year. That way you know it's from the heart and not out of necessity.

i cannot give constructive criticism to someone so spineless at 35. i just wait till you snap, visit the sporting good store and see you on the 6 o'clock news

I'm sorry but maybe you acted in a way that she preferred spending time with them than you,or if not she is really cruel and has no sense in my mind. Don't think about divorce before you talked to her and told what you feel when she leaves you alone. Tell her you need more romantic acts from her and plus don't start fighting the previous days of such ceremonies. Tell her that no one even her parents can replace as a love can.You can be every one to her but theothers just play as their role says. No niece will spend her life moments with her aunt.Some one she needs to keep for herself is her LOVE. Tell all those to her...

That's really cold of her. She's supposed to put you before her other family members, you're her husband!! Assuming you're not a mean bad abusive guy, I think it's horrible how she's treating you. It really depends on the HOW. I understand it's Halloween so spending it with young nieces seems more realistic than with a 35 year old. If she was really nice about it, and all then I think you should be ok with it. She did offer to celebrate the following week. My nieces bday is next week and she's doing it a halloween theme even though Halloween was this week because her other nieces couldn't be there so she was ok celebrating a halloween party a week late, so if your wife puts in the effort to really make it up to you with a nice birthday a week later then you should be ok with it. If she was just really mean about it then that's a different story. BUT you say she did the same thing for New Year's, spending it with her sister and that's just wrong! She should include you too and tell her sister if she's rude to you then she and you will not be spending it with her any more. Do you have any family? Maybe when it's her bday or valentine's day or xmas tell her you're flying out to spend it with someone who she can't stand so she'll see what it feels like.