How do I help my best friend get out of an abusive relationship?

There are very few things you can do to protect your friend in this situation. Since she is an adult, the only thing you can do is let her know how you feel, that you are concerned, and offer her a place to stay when/if she leaves. As far as the kids are concerned, you do have an option to get them out of the home, and maybe, her so that she won't loose them. Call CPS. Let them know that you would like to remain anonymous, but that you've witnessed the father abusing your friend (aka the mother) and that you feel it is an unsafe environment for the baby. The baby was caught in the crossfire when her father tried to push her monther down the stairs. For the record, throwing things with the intent to injure/terrorize/or terrify a person is abuse. And it's just as bad as punching or kicking. It's still inflicting harm.

Continue to be a sourse of encouragement. Be a safe haven let her know that you do not jugde her nor her situation. most of all dont place blame because what you will notice is that she will make up excuses for him and or take the blame herself. Unfortunately shes going to have to get sick and tired of being sick and tired. meaning, shes going to have to doit herself. She needs you now more than ever.

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Most women put up with this abuse because they are afraid to leave and don't have the courage to leave. This atmosphere is not good for the child to be in or witness, she will pick up on his example when she's older. Talk to your friend about her self esteem and how she deserves better in life, especially for her child. Will she call you when he becomes violent? If so, go to her house and pick her up or call the police. Make sure she will file charges against him.

Well i see where shes coming from its hard for a girl to get out of a relationship with someone who she loves and just has an anger problem maybe she should get him in some type of anger management or threaten if he doesnt stop this crap then shes going to leave him right now when hes angry he has control over everything so he either needs to get counseld for it or learn how to respect his woman when shes mad. ts understandable that people get angry but to push her around and **** is no excuse. and she says he says sorry but she doesnt realize i guess that one day if she does someting to piss him off hes not just gunna push her. hes gunna straight up deck her

Sometimes the hardest thing and the right the are the same! maybe show her this question you posted. Maybe she will understand how serious it is to see that you're asking everyone and anyone for advice because that's how scared you are! I grew up a family kind of like this and my mom didn't get out for 17 years! do it as early as possible. I was 15 when they finally decided to move on with the divorce. It will help their daughter in the long run to, it will especially help if they can stay friends. I would get her to call that number that that other person posted and let her know that whatever happens you'll be there for her! You can't, i mean CAN'T let her stay in that kind of situation and her daughter shouldn't have to grow up with that! like i said sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same!

Regretfully there is nothing you can do. By her continuing to defend him she has no intention of leaving. If she were at the point where she didn't make excuses for him there is still nothing you can do. This is something she has to decide on her own and until she does, nagging her will make her more defensive of him, and may eventually damage yours and her friendship. Some women don't mind being abused, some are so insecure they think they can't do better, and some simply like the attention they get from 'outsiders' when they get roughed up. He may think since he only pushes and throws things that he is not actually abusing her, but like you say, someday he will advance past this and hit her and maybe hurt her and/or the children. You have offered your opinion and your advice to her. You can be there when she needs you or find another friend. But you have done all you can for her. It truly is a decision she has made to stay in this.

so he's ghetto. she needs to to report him to the police, and follow through filing charges of assault. yes the baby will eventually be hurt,

Omg Your story will bring me to tears, This happened to me and my bestie.... She and i got into a relationship with bestfriesnds and I moved on from 1 guy just bc we grew apart and she started getting abused by the other and we were only in the 9th grade!!!! I called and told bother her parents and to make a long story short i went on to college and 4 years later bumped into her and no only had the abuse worsensed she been involved in a near death situation and still would c him. I knew at that point i had to just leave her alone. I no lonfger talk to her and as hard as it is u need to leave her alone.. Its almost like ur emotionally attached to someone who dosent care about themselves. it will be hard but you need to seperate youself from her.