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Married ppl--How do u control Feelings for another or from committing adultery?

  • so all u married ppl out there with good partners..I know its natural to feel attracted to others beside ur husband/wife..But my main question is Do u guys ever feel like acting upon this attraction? Like do u ever feel like u wanna be with others, be romantic with them, start a relation with them? I know its a very bad feeling to have after ur married.. and i've seen so many cases where the husband is not as good looking as the wife, or vice versa..or the wife is too fat, loud etc..but still they are living happily and sticking together without feeling the want of being with someone else or having regrets or thinking " Why didn't i wait to marry another person" "why couldn't i have married THEM"..etc... For me., this has always been an issue..i have a great husband...hes still romantic etc..but i've always had the issue where if i meet another guy, and if he is somewhat likable, i start feeling attracted to him..but it doesnt just stop with that...and then I am not able to control my feelings..if he tries to get romantic with me, i m not able to resist and then i start having feelings, liking him alot, etc..and then i come home and am moody with my husband and think why i couldnt have married someone else, etc etc.and then when the guy who i was involved with doesn't call me, or starts ignoring me..i feel like crying and i feel so bad.. I gotta get it through my head that this IS NOT MY PLACE and that IM MARRIED! .This has become such an issue for me..how do you guys control your feelings when u r married? Do u just back off the moment u think u r liking someone else? or u dont even allow any relation or friendship to go to this level?? i think, what if I miss out on this person if i control myself..?? Please share ur experiences..

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i don't get these feelings of wanting to be with someone else i think it has allot to do with someones level of maturity. some people are never satisfied with what they have in life so they are always going to look for something they think is better than what they got. you like the thrill of something new, you like the attention you get from someone new. you may mistake lust for love. you may never be happy with anyone and you may always chase after someone else trying in vain to find the knight in shining armour who doesn't exist.

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Many people feel attracted towards others even after marriage. It is common, but it is the responsibility that pulls back your emotions. A peaceful married life is much happier than having an extra affair/relationship. Further, married couples should be loyal to each other. Otherwise, a family cannot progress/succeed. Even if you feel for a good looking man/woman, you should come back to your senses that you have a life partner, who is legally ready to give you everything, and the responsibility of your children.

For me, there is nothing to control because I do not have those feelings. Not everyone does. It is natural to find other people attractive, but it is not always normal to want to act upon those feelings. The bottom line is that if feelings of adultery are so common and so strong in your own life/relationship, then perhaps you are not emotionally mature enough for marriage at this point. you should get some marriage counseling at the very least. If you cannot control your desire to cheat, then you need to be honest and up front with your spouse and end the marriage.

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