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What does it mean when he tells i'm falling for you? but i'm really scared to trust him b/c i was hurt before?

  • This guy and I are 23 years old. We've had our share of painful relationships in the past, but this time, we feel like it's so different. It's incredible. We've been only talking to each other for 2 weeks and we already have a strong connection. I know 2 weeks is short, but the connection we have cannot be explained. It feels like we've known each other for ever. We talk to each other every single day for hours and hours especially b/c it's long distance. We know long distance relationships doesnt work out and there will be a lot of issues involved, but we are aware of this yet we are so willing to try. Yesterday he tells me he's crazy about me, and asks me if i think it's weird since it's been only a short period of time. He tells me he's falling for me and feels like fate brought us together b/c God always has a reason. He says he feels like we're meant to be etc..and hopes I feel the same way and if I don't I should tell him. He says he's going to try to overcome this long distance and will show it through actions. We;re also both students so he said he's going to try his best so he can go to graduate school near me. He said he's never been happier. He tells me not to go away and he promises me he wont ever hurt me. What does it clearly mean if he says he's falling for me? I know it's not love yet, but what is it...? he also says he knows that i'm going to be the mother of his children later meaning he's going to marry me (NO, HE DOESNT HAVE CHILDREN RIGHT NOW, NEVER MARRIED). i tell him isn't it too fast that he's thinking all this, but he says if he knows he knows, and i'm one in a billion, he doesnt want to ever lose me... he said he knows it sounds all crazy b/c it is quite fast and he never expected this, but i am perfect for him. he says i complete him. we just have to work together on this relationship. he tells me everyday hes falling deeply for me, he likes me so much, but hasnt said i love you yet...is he getting there? I LOVE HEARING ALL THIS, AND IT MAKES ME HAPPY BUT I AM SCARED TO TRUST HIM. I WAS HURT AND BETRAYED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND AND I KNOW I SHOULD TRUST AGAIN BECAUSE THIS GUY IS A NEW GUY, BUT I CAN'T HELP BUT THINK IF THIS NEW GUY IS LYING TO ME TOO. I KNOW I SHOULDNT THINK LIKE THIS. I SHOULD COMPLETELY TRUST HIM AND DONT LET WHAT MY EX BOYFRIEND DID TO ME HURT NEW RELATIONSHIPS, BUT IT SOUNDS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE THAT HE'S SAYING ALL THIS. SINCE WE ARE LONG DISTANCE WE ARE MEETING IN DECEMBER SO WE ARE WAITING UNTIL THEN AND JUST TALKING ON THE PHONE SO IT DOESNT SEEM TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE RIGHT? HOW CAN I REALLY TRUST...I'M SCARED...

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    Goog god STOP SHOUTING ALREADY ! Doesn't take a genious to figure out that he is starting to have strong feelings for you. Hello !

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You need to realize that everything in life is a risk--including love. But who will you punish by not taking the risk to love and trust? Yourself! And remember, that no matter what, even IF you get hurt by this guy, you will be okay!!! Every relationship we have teaches something, even if ends badly. And what I learned from my second divorce was this...ALL relationships come to an end! They either end by breaking up, divorce or death, so knowing that ahead of time will make you realize that EVERY PERSON on earth will go through some type of pain and we live and learn from it. Your young!!! Go and enjoy life and LOVE again because you deserve it!

I understand what you mean when you say the connection is so strong in a short amount of time... That's how it was with my partner three years ago when I met him the first time.. But we never admitted it to each other back then. I know what it's like to be hurt over and over again and to be lied to but all we can really do is pick ourselves up and carry on and learn to trust, love and live again. Life is chances and we are all out to pursue one thing: Happiness. If this guy makes you happy than you should take the chance. What your feeling with him is real as un real as it may seem. Go with it!

You need to pace yourself. Don't fall all in love just because he said he is falling for you. It is hard to trust, but deep down inside part of you wants to believe everything he is saying. He may mean it all, but the thing about people is some people are just Fcked Up. They will tell you anything just because the sky is blue and the sun is yellow. Take your time and enjoy your time together, but do not jump too fast. Remember that you don't trust him, but he has not given you a reason to feel this way, with that said, don't make him pay for another mans sh!t. If he tells you something you don't believe and its because of your trust issues, don't jump down his throat. Just say, that remains to be seen, in a sweet way. It takes alot to trust and lots of times my husband would tell me something (then boyfriend) and I would be like yeah right, but I wouldn't beat him over the head with it. I dealt with it because I knew it was my problem, not something he did. So, Pace Yourself, Try to fix you, Give him the benefit of the doubt

I feel you should slow down. May be this person is true. It could be -he is going through some difficult time in his life and he really needs someone for emotional support. I will say take your step carefully, be wise about what you say. Because you been already hurt and you know how it was. So just be careful so that if he is not true you can handle things well.

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