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What should I do for Easter?

What should I do about the upcoming Easter holiday? I have a health issue and my sister is awful to me?

  • I have a debilitating health issue I am still trying to resolve. I also have a really mean sister who is quite evil in my opinion. She has always been mean to me, tells me she wishes I would commit suicide, and delights in my struggles. I live out of town. My sister lives in the same city as my fatgerer. My family (extended and immediate) always celebrate Easter and the big holidays. My dad sometimes hosts Easter at his house. My aunt is having a major surgery this year and we have usually celebrated at her house. Because of her major surgery, I was thinking it would be nice if my dad hosted this year's Easter to let her take a rest. Well, I have made the decision that my sister needs to be away from me at all times because she can be really out of control with what she says and does and because of my health issue, I need to be selfish and put myself first. I do not know what to do about Easter now. My father usually sides with my sister, but maybe he is managing to act like a real parent and is now telling me that if I do not attend a family Easter party then he will not attend either since he says I am his priority with my health issue. If I do not go to Easter, my dad won't go either. My sister then would not go with her husband because it would be awkward without the rest of the family there. What should we do? I guess I cannot tell my father to disinvite my sister to Easter, but I do not want to subject myself to verbal abuse. Should I just not go to the Easter celebration?

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    Go , but go prepared. You know your sister you know where she normally hits you with. If she attacks you with those horrible words tell her leave you alone. If she makes that comment ask why is that what you want to do because you marriage feels like a trap for you? Why do you insult me? Is it because you want me to feel how you look? I would say that you just put you foot in your mouth but noticed it would be impossible because your head way to far up your @$$. I have more I come from a long line of Smart Donkeys. Realize where and how she is going to hit you and hit her back to give her the hint to back off. If you get into and agruement no matter what say she is right and your wrong three times and walk away. if she follow repeat till she leaves you alone. You will get out of the room and she will stew.

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I feel sorry for you for having such an evil and mean sister,I feel your pain and empathise with you. I don't know if you have spoken to her about the cruelty or maby even if you do she may not be sensitive to understand your pain.I understand your dilemma but I wish your parents understood the pain and hurt your sister put you trough and how badly it effects your already declining health. In my opinion if there is not any way you can resolve this with communication or you don't wish to confront maby you should tell them you are sick one day before the easter and not in the condition to travel. Tell them you have some contagious ting like flue or anything like that,and if are concern about you other family members as you don't wish to make them sick either...This may scar them a bite as if your sister is as mean as you say she is surely selfish as well and selfish people mostly think about them self and their welbeing... This way you can avoid the easter party... You can also send them a buqay with yellow flowers and a card there is alot of such companies that provides such services then it will look more authentic that even when you were sick tough about others sent them beautiful flowers this will show your generosity and even when your sister talks badly behind your back it will show how evil and mean she is....As actions speaks lauder then words... Hope it helped....

It's wrong that your father is manipulating you like this. He's trying to make you feel guilty about not going, even though it's unhealthy for you to go. If he usually sides with your sister but for some reason he's saying he's now doing this for you, don't fall for it. It sounds like your father is doing a bit of scheming and emotional blackmail, even if he won't admit it or if he's doing it subconsciously. Tell him to go and not put the blame on you. Have yourself a nice Easter with people who like you and you life in return. Don't let your father and sister make you feel guilty over any of this. They're grown adults and should behave accordingly. Don't feel bad about their decisions especially since you didn't tell them to base their decisions on your decision.

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