How do I save my relationship?

If you want him to see the person he fell in love with, then be that person. It is you, but it is the best of you. We all have bad days when our emotions take over and we end up moody. You may find the excuse of not being able to control your emotions as a convenience but I am here to tell you to stop using this as an excuse for mistreating your husband. First thing you need to do is to take back the control over your emotions. Sometimes after one gets married we give up trying so hard to please our spouse, one can take the tolerance and love for granted and if left alone to create resentment, the relationship will suffer for it. You need to get back to focus on your husband as not your rightful property, but as a separate human being with a will of his own. Just as much as he loves you, he can also fall out of love. Never take his love for granted thinking he will always put up with being treated badly. It is a good start by you showing concern over this, now you need to act on it. Personally, I do not feel time apart will do you both any good.What I do suggest is for the both of you to get away for some alone time. Do this by leaving all your troubles behind. Use this opportunity to re-new lost feelings. And please do remember, a man always feels the need to be respected from his wife, this is the up most important thing to him. Good luck to you!

maybe try getting off the birth control. and take him to do suttin that you guys did when you first started dating. do suttin romantic explain to him in detail how you feel and what you want. but like the person said on here DO NOT let him walk out of that house!!!! good luck hun

That birth control is a killer. Speaking from personal experience, get off it and get off it now!

Yes you should spend more time apart but I'm not sure him leaving for a week (or permanently perhaps?) is the answer. Talk to him and explain you are trying your best, and you agree you need time apart, tell him to do his thing and you will do yours, but in that time your apart try to remember how it was like when you first met. Try doing some things you used to do, whatever that might be, have some good sex (extra kinky in my opinion) do something you have never done (no threesomes!). Besides the birth control issue, which you know you have, you might consider getting another medication for these mood swings, and perhaps that med will help even out everything that is happening to you. There are several, lithium, abilify, depakote, etc. Look them up, mood stabilizing drugs. You might only need them for a small time to help your mood, but even if you take them permantly if it helps you relationship then it was a good thing to do.

The only person that change you, is you. If you want him to see the old person he fell in love with, be that person. Determine what the old you was like, how you are different now, and change back. It sounds like you were a lot happier with the old you also. If it means getting off of birth control pills that mess you up, then do it. Sounds like counseling should be in your future. Good luck. Your relationship is worth saving and it sounds like you will do whatever it takes to make it work. You might want to tell your husband that. Remember, whatever it takes.

Couples counseling is a good start. Stay in the same house. Don't let him leave. Once he's out it will be to easy to walk away.

Take the break for a week. Let him have a chance to miss you. When you come back from the week break, tell him that you missed him and you are even more committed to doing your part to make it an exciting, fun, loving relationship. You'll probably need a week to actually think of some REAL ways you can make that happen.

i would suggest a different type of birth control, ormaybe its just not you that changed maybe its him too. maybe its just an excuse for him not to be with you. face it we women are moody no matter what.

Are you sure it is the birth control pills? Why don't you try a different type of contraception? As for the relationship.it is pretty serious when someone says that they connection is gone. Take the break but look into what caused this mood swing and whether that is truly the reason for the changes. Something sounds strange.