How To Save Your Relationship?

How do i save my relationship...is it possible EMERGENCY?

• I have been with my man for six years. we dont live together, he just recently moved out of his parents house and is living with his best friend of ten years....he told me that the only reason he wasnt living with me is he didnt want to be a "freeloader" and that he didnt want his best friend to lose his house, so it may take a long time he needed to find a better job and we would have to work something out. Everything was fine saturday till we got in a huge fight. This was after he asked if i had got my promotion and i said no, unfortunately, but things are going better at work...he said he would call me on his lunch . he said "awww..good. i go back to work now. loveyas" ..so i waited for him to call...he got upset cause i was upset he didnt want to live with me , even though hes only been on his own for a month, that all i seemed to talk about was the relationship and thats why he hasnt been calling me, he doesnt feel like i enjoy the time we do spend together even though i only get if that two days a month even though i do and its wonderful when we are together, i get upset cause when he leaves, its this uncertainty again and this quietness and i never know anything. i hate uncertainty. hes still young, and im the first and only girlfriend he has ever had. but he said he would not get involved in anything unless he could put himself fully into it, which i believe, but maybe he needs time to do what he needs to do to do that with me. I tried to talk to him at work for two minutes monday he said he would tell me how the interview went .I havent talked to him but for two minutes on monday and told him what my days off were this week...and if he wanted to come over he could he said ok he said he would talk to me about the interview later and i said i loved him and he said he loved me back. i have for the past few days esp last night repeatedly texted and messaged him telling him that i dont know if he wants to be with me anymore, he is silent its killing me its scaring me, i just want him to be happy and i dont know if being with me right now is the best thing for him and if that means we have to break up and be friends and try again when hes ready later in life, then thats what i do..i dont want either of us miserable. ive been trying to call him he left his phone on, he wont pick up..i thought well worse comes to worse, ill talk to him at work find out whats going on. they said he wasnt scheduled today . which hurt me cause he could have came over, or he could have talked to me. he hasnt been online in over a week. this isnt like him. its not like him to change so drastically esp since all of his life he has been online, thats where we met, and hes never not communicated to people. but he did tell me at the time he doesnt want to talk or doesnt want or doesnt talk to people anymore...i am worried about him. im more scared than i ever have been in my life. im feeling like maybe i should leave for the best for him, that this is my fault that i failed him and made him close off, that i need help and to work on me, and im afraid that imnot whats best for him. i dont want to lose him this is breaking my heart. we've been together for six years and he said before if he wanted to leave me he would tell me, that hed break up with me, and have the balls to say it to my face. hes not saying anything. hes vanished from me. only reason i know hes still alive is i called to try him two nights ago, and his phone was busy with our other mate. which hurt me. cause he wont talk to me. should i jsut leave him alone for now....is he ever going to come back to me if i just close up and not talk to him..do i just need to give him space and work on myself... he changed his days off at his job i dont know if he is at a new job..ive left him opportunites to call and told him its very important i need closure somehow but he wont talk to me...hes the kind of guy that has told me in no uncertain terms that if he wanted to break up with me he would have done it by now, that if i dont let him go be the kind of man he needs to be and wants to be and i want him to be, then he never will, that if he didnt love me he wouldnt say it, im just scared about the silence..i dont know if im making it worse..please give me some POSITIVE reinforcement, am i doing the right thing, am i right to worry....is this relationship worth saving or will we stop communicating till its gone..is there a way to have a friendship outside of it if its not because we started that way..is there any way i can make the situation more appealing to him to make him want to come back..do they come back if they are given enough space or will it backfire..Am i making too much of this, will he come back if i close off all communication or should i try again tomorrow or this weekend to show i still want to work it out if we can save it...please help and please dont be negative.

• Answer:

  What? After 6 years - no ring, no further commitment...I don't know - what to tell you. If he can't keep a job, can't commit to you - do you really want to be in this relationship? I think the best thing you can do for yourself is take a step back and do some soul searching...determine what you really want in a man and a relationship. Good luck!