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Boyfriend has turned into an alcoholic, don't know how to help him?

  • His father passed away about 4 months ago, and he was very very distressed by it. He's 22, and he told me he regrets not spending enough time with him. Ever since his father passed away he's been drinking every day. He went from just drinking a glass or two in the evening to pints in the morning. I hardly see him sober, and even then he smells like alcohol. I know he's still grieving and is still very hurt by this, but I've tried helping him by asking him to move in with me so I can take care of him he said he's not ready yet. I know he doesn't want to move in with me because I don't store any drinks because I don't like drinking. My father was a alcoholic before I was born and I've asked him to speak to my boyfriend but my boyfriend doesn't pick up the phone when he calls, probably cause he's embarassed I don't know. What do you think I should do? I don't want him to fall ill, and don't want him to spoil his health because he can't get over his father's passing. I worry about him every day since he's started drinking, and I worry more about what what drinking every day is doing to him in the long run. Thanks so much for your advice

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    prob give im space to greive.. he will not forget about you, if the drinks only started then hes only drowning his sorrows not being a alcholic.

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Find a new boyfriend. He'll drag you though it with him if you stick around and you'll waste part of your life in this ridiculous situation.

This is his way of relieving stress. He needs someone to talk to. Alcoholism is very serious and he needs to go see a professional. Rehab for one to cure the alcoholism and then a therapist to help him overcome his father's death. Losing a parent is extremely difficult and he can't handle it on his own. Take him to a psychologist.

Get him counseling ASAP that is the only thing you can do, you can try AA or actually get him to an abuse counselor. Whatever grief he is going through can be addressed by a grief counselor. It is the only way you can help him with his behavior but he will not change it unless he wants to.

thats alot for yout o have to deal with and people grieve in their own ways, this is his grieving, try to talk to him to see if he wants the help, or if he needs to talk to a therapist or grieve counselor, how does he act when hes drinking? the same? or mood changes??? just talk to hm, be there for him, thats all you can do until he realizes he needs help, good luck with everything, i hope he gets better

You can't do a thing. He've chosen how to react, and you are not his Momma, or even a wife. Tell him to call you when he is ready to get sober and proves it.

Just be there for him. Sounds as if he and his Dad didn't get along and now he has regrets that can't be changed. Make sure you just stay girlfriend and not fiance or wife. He may continue with the drinking and you will be dealing with an alcoholic, too. Good luck.

Yes, he needs to talk to someone. Try to get him into grief counseling. I assume the rest of his family knows about this drinking. If he refuses to get help, you may need to engage his family & stage an intervention before he hurts himself, gets in trouble, etc. Drinking more than usual after a death is normal for many people, but it still can't interfere with your day to day life. Plus he needs to feel the pain to get over the grief. Everyone who loses someone before their time has regrets, but you just have to acknowledge them & move on with your life. What he is experiencing is something that many others have experienced. This is a serious drinking problem & someone needs to take some action ASAP. You can offer support & try to help him but you can't make it get help & you certainly shouldn't let yourself be dragged down by his drinking if he is unwilling to seek/accept help.

Your boyfriend is in a bad place and needs help. More than an AA meeting he needs therapy. Only a licensed professional can help him sort through the emotions.

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