How long will the bump on my forehead stay?

Should i stay or leave? What's running through his mind?

• This is a very confusing guy to figure out - just a heads up. we started dating in march, and around july both of us felt we lost the spark. we were friends before anything happened, so it was easy to still be ourselves around one another and eventually things got a little more than friendly and it stayed that way since (right now its december). he would sleep on my chest and cuddle with me all the time. he didnt like sleeping alone and told me he has something with me that he hasnt had with anyone else - and he doesn't know if its actually romantic, or just comfort. he says there would be a void if i wasnt around, and it would feel strange - cause i was like a favourite blanket. he doesnt have a history of cheating, and we've stayed honest with one another. he always touches me in public (like touching my hand, our putting an arm around me, giving me a kiss) and theres times where he'll put his forehead right against mine and just stare at me. and now we've reached a speed bump and he said after we broke up (in july) he thought we were able to stay close (as friends) yet even when im not there hes calling me his girlfriend to other people and if a girl hits on him he says he has a girl back home. hes super comfortable around me, but hes a tough guy. he says he doesnt feel like hes supposed to. yet if im there hes probably the most affectionate guy i know. but that "spark" hasnt come back. i think its cause he spent so long trying to actually get me, and once he did, i dont know. i just dont know if i should stay. im scared. is he just comfortable with me? and thats as far as it goes?

• Answer:

  You've probably just moved past that "infatuation" phase and you're both interpreting it as something missing - no spark. All relationships go through different phases, and once you get past the new feelings and back into your comfort zone, it's easy to think that something is missing. You didn't say if you still consider him your boyfriend - only that he refers to you as his girlfriend. Sounds like you're not quite ready to let him go because you are comfortable with him - so quit waiting for the magical spark to come back into the picture and decide if you are happy being with him. If so, call it what it is - phase 2 (or 3) of your relationship together.