I need a perfect watch for a nurse.

Before I approach him, I need more information and to understand WHY he does this?

• Not sure how to ask this, but here goes. Married to a man that (supposedly) can't stand blood, gore, guts, etc. so-on and so-forth. I like to watch true crime shows like "48 hours", "Dr. G, Medical Examiner" and "Trauma, Life in the E.R." and such. When I was much younger, I had always wanted to become a nurse, but "life" and my health changed my career path. My husband won't watch these shows with me, as they're "too gross." If he does stay and watch, he averts his eyes or will jump up and leave the room. My husband said that he always wanted to be a cop after school, but discovered that he "couldn't stand the sight of blood, guts, brains or mucus, anything like that." So he went into another profession. When our son was born, he had to leave the room because he became nauseous and faint, admitting he "didn't know that the baby came out "covered in blood" (it was a C-section, and the baby is hardly "covered" in blood!). On the computer, he left open his email account. It wasn't his normal email that I know about - it was one I didn't know about that he uses to view ultra-nasty, ultra explicit auto, airline, etc. accident videos and real-death videos - so bloody, so violent, so explicit that I became nauseated when I viewed one - and I can take a lot of bloody tissue, guts and gore. These are the actual, true-time, real thing - not simulations or re-creations of actual events. These are sick, twisted videos. Many feature crime scene photos, FOR EXAMPLE, like the wife of OJ with her throat slit from here-to-there, a young woman in a Porsche smashing into a freeway overpass support (really gruesome - her head was exploded upon impact, her chest pierced by the steering wheel... ), just - horrible, nightmare-inducing videos and still photos. Many of these videos are from traffic camera's, some from Medical Examiners / Coroners offices, police, etc. I am still shaken from watching that one that he last watched... Why would someone who professes to hate this kind of thing be watching it on the sly? It's one thing, to me, to watch this type of thing on TV or cable, but - watching someone scream in agony and drawing their last breath while being burned alive in a fiery car crash is repulsive to me. I cannot in any way, shape, means, or form understand WHY ANYONE WOULD THINK THIS IS "ENTERTAINING." Please explain to me what is going on here. I need more information before I approach him on this matter. Thank you.

• Answer:

  You're right. That is odd. The only reasons I can think of are that he didn't feel he could cut the muster to be in law enforcement (or he failed the test) and was too embarrassed to tell you or perhaps he was intentionally misleading you about that in the first place as some sort of a cover-up. I don't know that I'd approach him about this directly. What purpose would that serve? I like those same shows you named and, if it were me, the next time he left the room unable to watch, I'd just say, "Oh, sit back down. You and I both know that you've watched far worse scenes online." If he denies it, show him your evidence and tell him you don't watch these crime shows for nothing! That ought to give him second thoughts about keeping secrets from you. He's sure to wonder what else you know that you're not revealing.