Preparing for Nursing School?

BF wants to marry after school but doesn't want to get engaged yet??

• Im 24, he is 26. He has always told me he wants to marry me and finish school so we can "start our lives together right away."(He's in nursing school & will take a few years to finish). He wants to finish school before getting married which is fine. But I dont understand when I talked to him about getting engaged a year before he graduates and he says it's better to wait after he graduates. I thought it was a good idea because like HE said, so we can "start planning our lives together RIGHT AWAY" I told him it would help get us started on the right track and I dont need a million dollar engagement ring & when he's done, we wont have to lag on preparing. The only reasons i got from him, is that its important he doesn't get me a cheap engagement ring,(i understand that to) and he doesnt have to worry planning a wedding while studying. I still dont see that justifying "start our lives right away" Made me put up my guard a lil. MEN or women:do you think there is another reason behind?

• Answer:

  i think when he explained that he does not want to worry about an engagement throughout his last year says it all and it makes perfect sense. if i had one last year to finish plus planning a wedding id be freaking out. even if u agree to do all the planning, he knows he's gonna be needed for many things, he will be asked many questions when he might want to just focus on school. however i do see your point, you want to know that its gonna happen, that what he says will go through. so i think you two should reach a middle point. maybe u tow will decide that he will ask you before he graduates but it wont necessarily be a year before. take off one month from both sides. in other words. within the first month from his last year, he doesnt have to ask you to marry him, however it does have to be done within one month prior to him graduating. if u can know its going to happen within those 10 months that are left over, and if he's ok with saying yes to you before graduation, but not an entire year before then maybe somethng can be worked out.