Can fish really feel your stress when you are fishing?

Am I right to feel this way?

• For the last 3 weeks my hubby has been telling me he wanted to get away and he would add each time "I don't care if I go fishing or not, I just want to get away and relax". So I searched and found a place for us to go including his 17 yr son who we have every weekend. I showed my hubby the cabin several times earlier in the week and again he repeated " i could careless about fishing, I just want to get out of the house for awhile". I told him there were places to fish if he wanted to go but he kept insisting he didn't care at long as we were together and got out of the house for awhile. I verified with him 3 times if the cabin and place I selected was ok with him, he agreed. He asked his cousin, his wife and their 13 yr old son to join us. Which was fine with me. So we took off on Friday. As soon as we picked up his 17 yr old son, the boy started complaining that there was no fish where we were going because his mom's BF said so and that he wanted to go somewhere else which was 2 hours from where we were going. My hubby told him "we can go there another weekend, this weekend we are going where we planned". We arrived at the cabin and the boys wanted to go fishing, so we all went. The 17 yr old didn't catch anything and said there were no fish and this place sucked. He kept saying he wanted to go somewhere else and again asked his dad if today they could go there (the 2 hr away place). During dinner I asked my hubby if he was taking his son to the place he was wanting to go, he said no it was too far away and there were places they could fish locally. The guys made plans to leave early this morning to go fishing and said they would be back early afternoon and we would all go to the Irish Festival. We arrived back to the cabin a little after 2, they were no where to be found. They called about 4 and said they were about 2 hrs away and be home soon. They went where the 17 yr wanted to go. They came home and we ate. Someone said theres no sense in being mad, we were only fishing. I said "we'll I am mad because first of all this boy was told over and over again that you all were not going where he wanted and second because we all made plans and they didn't keep their plans. My hubby starts cussing me telling me telling me it was no big deal and this wasn't a cabin in the Mts. I told him "next time make your own reservations and I reminded him what he said all week. He said "too bad, get over it". I then said "it's always about what you want" He said don't F---- start with me. I packed up and left. I told him he could ride home with his cousin. He said good go and he would ride home with them. As I was walking out the door his cousin said "come on you dont have to leave" I said "I am sick of a 17 yr old controlling my life every weekend and calling the shots constantly". I heard him tell my hubby to go after me and my hubby said no. I am always on the back burner to this 17 yr old boy as well as hunting and fishing and now an archery club. My hubby and I cant spend one minute alone and everything we do and every minute of the weekend revolves around this boy. I feel my hubby and his cousin were in the wrong, I didn't deserved to be talked to like this and he shouldn't give his son his way constantly. Your thoughts????

• Answer:

  I will admit, first off, that I only skimmed this question. Your title "Am I right to feel this way", tells me that you don't have the basic communication tools to be able to ask for what you want and to find the right ways to achieve it. Stop looking for validation, and start examining the real reasons for your feelings. Then, find the most concise way to express them. Then you will have your results. Good luck.