How can I help my boyfriend learn to cope with stress better? Causing a strain on our relationship?

Somethings you can't help a person with....they have to do it themselves. This is one of those things. Unless he's willing to admit he has a problem and he's willing to take advice from you there's nothing you can do. Maybe it's time for you to put some space between you for a while so he can get himself together.

All he wants is for you to help him think of a way. So get all of your ducks in a row on paper and say "We'll do this on this day. This on this day. And we won't do this. I'll write strict grocery lists." Just because isn't good at managing stress doesn't mean you're the master at it. God will provide for each and every one of his children who are in need. All you have to do is trust him and have faith that he will do it. Support your husband when he is worried. Don't argue with him. Tell him there is no need to be worried if you are allowing God to help you.

You say that you are stressed also but don't let it show, do you two sit down and talk about the solutions that can be put down to get you out of the money troubles you are having. He may not think you care because you don't acknowledge it, so he may need some validation that you care too and that your in it together. I believe this may help with his attitude.

The first answerer is right (to an extent), but it's hard to want to have sex with a person who's started in on you before they've gotten both feet in the door. People have been dealing with stress for a long time, and dealing with it without taking it out on those closest to them. Everyone has stress- not everyone thinks it's OK to unload on their spouse just because they're right there. You can't fix it alone- HE is the one that has to come to the realization that his coping strategy is failing.

Unless a person feels the need to change, there is little someone concerned can do....it's unfortunate that money has become a great divide in relationships, and things just are not getting better on Main Street.

it maybe time for a temporary separation before it gets worst...emotionally

Talk to him. Tell him everything you said now. Make sure you don't make it out like you're attacking him because he'll immediately shut down and get defensive. This is really the only advice I can give you. He needs to listen to you, he needs to realise that he's hurting you, and he needs to realise he needs to change. To be honest I used to be just like him and I actually dated a guy like him too. I had the talk with my ex and he couldn't change, so we couldn't be together anymore. As for me, I'm trying to change and I've made a lot of improvement with just knowing that I was being unreasonable. Maybe he can go to some therapy for his stress or psychotherapy to help him learn coping mechanisms. He's going to have to want to get better and it's going to be INSANELY HARD. It's been two years for me and I still have some moments where I freak out, but it's easier to tell now whereas before it always seemed like everyone and even everything was going against me.