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How can I cope with mean friends?

  • I'm not depressed. I see my future and know it's going to be bright. I know that once I'm out of high school, it will get better. But for the time being, I can't seem to cope. I call these people my friends when they in fact do nothing to establish themselves as friends. I have 7 good friends, in a group of 8 of us. All 7 of them have some sort of problem with me right now. I'm just the target for all of the blame. It hurts so much. Most people would just say, oh it's not that bad. But knowing what these girls are capable of, it is. All day every day at school I have no one to turn to. No one to even talk to (I'm in no mutual classes with any of them except lunch with two of them because they are in much lower level classes than I am). I see them and it's all okay, but the things I KNOW they're saying. Gossip, rumors, hurtful words...it is eating at my core and making me become a less confident person. My question is, how do I cope? How do I cope with all of these girls being so mean. They tell me I'm too focused on gymnastics to care about them, but gymnastics is only in season for 4 months. How can you throw away a friendship for 4 months of more separation? I feel like none of them are mature enough to see I don't take life for granted and live it to the fullest. I can't change them as people. What do I do to help myself get through the day without going to the bathroom and crying?

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    Have you been friends for a long time? and do you really spend a lot of time on gymnastics? If you've been close friends for a long time, they probably are missing you, so just plan to spend more time with them. If not, then they're probably bsing and just want to get rid of you. Just ask them why they're talking **** behind your back and why they're so upset. I mean, if they stoop to something as low as that, then they're really not worth your time. So just forget about them, and try to make new friends in the same classes as you. It'll be better to have a friend you can see all the time.

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First off a friend is a person that has ur back and supports u and ur ideas no matter what! Trust me there r many ppl who r dealing with the same thing. Stay strong and ignore the rumors u hear. Try interacting with new people..I'm not saying to leave ur friends, unless u want to. If u have done something wrong try appoligizing. Tell ur friends how u feel. Be proud of yourself that ur doing sports :) try to work out time for friends and sports. Try telling ur friends that u do really care and appreciate them..I hope I helped :) do what u feel is comfortable for u. I wish you the best.

Please don't cry. I know it is tough, and the tougher part is that even though you know the future is bright you still feel like crying for the present. That is normal at least in my case, all there really is to do is focus on your self, what makes YOU happy and not what other people think should make you happy. If you want hold an honest talk with them, if not find other friends, that doesn't mean to stop being their friend just have more friends. But whatever you do, don't give up on you, on your dreams, and what you believe is right for you. Stay strong, keep your chin up, and smile because life is great, not matter how gray it gets.

First off, it's good you're not depressed. For most people, high school is pretty bad, and a lot of people are the worst people they will ever be while in high school, so keep that in mind. I used to try to be in groups, but then I realized these weren't the people I wanted to hang out with. You need to make new friends. Real friends. Introduce yourself to people while sitting in class, or in line somewhere, and pretty soon you'll have a few people you like to hang out with. Hang out with them. Don't insult the group, but just don't hang out with them. Sit at a different table at lunch. Use one friend you have to meet other people. good luck, and remember: Groups don't actually work to be happy and have friends. You should be friends with the people who you want to be friends with.

Reality check.they r not ur friends but ppl who wants 2 drag u 2 their level.focus on ur future

Try not to

Girls can be very catty and hurtful, more than guys can. You need to talk with them and let them know that they have hurt you. If they're real friends, they will apologize. If they don't, then maybe they're not that good of friends after all. One thing you need to do is to ask yourself if there is anything you did or said to cause them to act this way. If there is, then apologize to them. If not, then ask them why they're being so mean. If they're true friends, they will care that they hurt you. If they don't apologize or change their behavior, then maybe you need to find some new friends. Have you talked with your mom about this? Sometimes moms do understand and can give some insight into the situation, since they were that age once too.

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