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Is it fair that I can't go to this dance but my friend can?

• It's prom. This prom is for people 9th grade and up. It's just a group of parents who got together and made a prom for kids who want to go before 11th grade (I think that's the grade for regular prom?) Ok so the prom is for people 9th grade- 12th grade The parents are in this little group/community with other parents. My parents are included in that. Here's the situation: I'm in 8th grade. I was held back a grade. I'm the right age to be in high school, just not the right grade. There are 2 women in charge. Let's call the one who said I could go, Amy; and the other woman, Kat. I was told by Amy that I'm allowed to go since I'm supposed to be in high school. I knew this deal was kind of iffy-iffy since I'm technically 8th grade. Now I'm being told by Kat that I'm not allowed to go because I'm in 8th grade. I would be ok with this, except for the fact that my friend who is ALSO in 8th grade was told by Kat that she can go. My friend is best friends with the Amy's and Kat's kids. My friend is in the same situation as me. She was held back a grade too. She's less than a month older than me and in the same grade as me. I don't understand. I'm in 8th grade, but I'm not allowed to go. My friend, who is also in 8th grade, is allowed to go. I said something to my mom and my mom is mad about it. She says that they are favoring my friend because she's best friends with Amy's and Kat's kids. Amy's daughter is in 9th grade. Amy's son is in 6th grade, but he's always at all of the 8th grade and up dances My friend and I are in the same grade and the same age. My friend and I were both held back a grade, too. We're both supposed to be in 9th grade. I feel like Kat is being unfair. Amy said I could go, but Kat told her no, I wasn't allowed to attend because I'm in 8th grade. I said something to Amy's daughter about it. This is how the conversation went Me: Yeah I just found out I can't go to prom because I'm in 8th Her: Awww well that's too bad Me: But (name of my friend) is also in 8th but she's allowed to go? Her: So? Me: We're the same age and grade and she's allowed to go but I'm not? Her: She's. Going. Me: But we're both supposed to be in 9th Her: SHE'S. GOING. *end of conversation*

• Answer:

  Ashely, I'm sorry that you've been put in such an awkward position. What concerns me more is that this group of parents has gotten together to hold a prom for students in 9th-12th grade. Prom is supposed to be something special, sort of a rite of passage. Sometimes students get an opportunity to attend prior to 11th grade if they receive an invitation from an older student, but it's something that should be in my opinion, reserved until Junior and Senior year. Arranging for prom earlier takes away part of what makes Prom special- the fact that it's a Junior or Senior activity. The fact that Kat is willing to allow her daughter's best friend to attend but not you while Amy says yes to both of you is interesting. It speaks volumes to Kat's inability to remain impartial. However, the reality is that if this is truly a prom for grades 9 through 12, neither of you are eligible to attend. It doesn't matter that you should be in 9th grade, you ARE in 8th grade. Next year both of you can attend without being exceptions to the rule.