Why don't dislocations go away?

Why do i have friends who dont go out as often ?? WHy does this happen to me ???

• **** this is realy annoying to me and i know i shoulnt be saying anything of my friends but it gets to a point where its ****** gay and i start to wonder why do i have this happen to me . So my friends nevr seem to want to go out , unless i fully froce them to go and most of the time they still flop on me. Im 17, play soccer seriuolsy , work out and love to go out . If i can i would go out every weekend and have a good time. ENjoy the weather and enjoy the free time at night. THese friends i have are chill speople at school and i mean i dont hate them but when it comes to going out at night, they usually wanna sty home for no reason or they cant go out cuz their parents dotn let them . But i mean they need to rebel a little and try to convince them and aggree on somethin. HTats what i did and now im usually allowed to glo out most of the time. I have this other friend but i dont chill with him outside of school because i never really asked him to chill. But he loves to go out.

• Answer:

  It's not the easiest thing but just try understanding that some of your friends may have different parents that may have different views. And due to different circumstances (financial, social, cultural) are not in the position to rebelle. The thing about certain parents, especially those that are anal about going out, is that its difficult to get them to agree especially if they think they're kids are being negatively influenced. They just dig their heels in and blatantly refuse. I'll try to make it as simple as possible here are your options: (1) Do Nothing - forget about the friends that aren't able to go out. (2) Keep Friendly - if these are friends that you generally like being around but can't go out cause of their parents or because they claim they don't want to (which is rarely the case - most likely their scarred) just keep inviting them everytime you go out even if you know they're going to say no. This you can show them that you'd enjoy their company. It might seem like nothing for you, but it could mean alot to your friend who doesn't enjoy the same flexibility you have. (3) Pro-active - these people are real great friends and you would really enjoy their company, you can try to get to know their parents, try to get them to see that you're a good guy and that hanging out at night doesn't involve doing crack or heroine, or getting in to tavern brawls or anything like that. Just try and remember that it is very often not you're friends fault. Try not blaming them too much, because I can bet you that they'd like to go out too, but parents are parents, what can i say.