How do you heal and move on from a broken heart?

• i fell in love w. my best friend a yr ago. We've always been close and never thought i saw him in that "way" but when we kissed, nothing was ever the same. I'm not the type to fall for anyone but after we had a thing, I KNEW. I couldn't help it, i care and love this person so strongly and it's never happened in my life.Then, we decided not to pursue b/c of timing and that's where i thought we had left it. After that, we didn't talk to each other. I was always concerned and tried to get a hold of him but never really got anything. The past few months, we've been talking and been hopefully becoming better friends. I started to become insecure this past week and found out he had been dating someone that didn't work out and it was a sign that i needed closure. We FINALLY (after a yr) talked and I admitted everything to him. Turns out it was a situation of lost love that we both secretly wanted to be together, it just didn't happen. It breaks my heart to know that someone i love and care about feels that way for someone else. He's going through a tough time in life right now and i let him know i would be there b.c regardless, i sincerely care for him. As much as I am comfortable/okay at being friends, i'm still a mess. I WANT TO BE WELL. There are time when i know i'm okay and have accepted things and are aware of what my friends are telling me but then there are times when i crash and burn and become affected. I'm thinking positive and am getting used to the mentality of "not caring"/analyzing about him but it's hard. I want to be there for him but I'm more important right now, it's about me. I need to focus on my healthcare major, i want to do things that will boost my ego in a healthy way. I need to remind myself my value and worth. It's hard. Sorry to be selfish but i think, why couldn't he appreciate/like me? I'm a good person and know that there will NEVER be anyone who cares as much as I do. I need to get away from him and GET TO KNOW MYSELF AGAIN AND WHAT MAKES ME A PERSON WORTH LOVING. AM I ON THE RIGHT PATH?

• Answer:

  If he really cared for you that much he would have tried to make it work by now. You are on the right path...just do things that get your mind of of him and proceed with your life. The first thing that you MUST do if you REALLY want to get him out of your mind is to get him out of your life. Trust me, having him there only makes things worse and if you were to get rid of him it would be hard but after a while you would be able to let go. I can;t tell you it will be a fast process. It all depends on how much you REALLY WANT to recuperate from your aching heart and detoxify yourself. Having him in your life will only keep giving you false hopes and the healing process will not be able to begin. But like i said, you have to really WANT it to be able to achieve it.