How can I help my friend in an abusive relationship?

How can I help my friend out of this unhealthy relationship?

• A good friend of mine is in a bad situation but either unable or unwilling to get herself out of it. She is early 30's and has a masters in Fine Art so intelligent but in some ways very naive. Just over a year ago her long term relationship ended when her partner since high school cheated on her. She was devastated but eventually she pulled herself together and to get away from things went on an artists residency to Iceland. This lasted for 6 weeks and while there she had an affair with an older american man who is an actor who "dabbles" in the arts and part funded the Program she was on. It was supposed to be fun and wiping of the slate but after she got back home to Scotland he stayed in contact with her. He eventually came to our city and stayed just over a week which the spend most of together in a hotel. When he went she thought that was the end of it only for him to send airline tickets uninvited for her to come and join him in his home in the states for several weeks. She at first refused on account of her work but then she was gone. It has been a similar pattern ever since. When he is not working or even has a short time off he sends for her and she drops everything even her work, but then he doesn't tell her his plans, he may have several women he keeps like this after all he can afford to fetch them to himself when he likes. I don't think it is good for her and she agrees but she says she cannot help herself when she tries to avoid him he will eventually turn up and she cannot resist him. He is very handsome and wealthy but its clear he doesn't have any plans to commit to anyone not at his age so why doesn't he just leave her alone to fine someone nice? How can I help her stop running off to this guy the minute he snaps his fingers, it's not good for her finding someone who will be with her long term. At present she is practically prostituting herself to him but I can see she is deeply infatuated with him

• Answer:

  If she really wants to stop this then she shud talk with him in a polite way and tell him that when she is busy she won't come by leaving her work rather she would meet her less frequently . then slowly slowly she leaves him completely , but first of all she shud have a strong urge to quit this all.