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How not to feel like a loser at college?

Sophomore in college, not making a lot of friends, and feel like a loser. Should I transfer?

  • My freshman year was really difficult for me bc I don't drink or go partying or anything like that. My entire building did though so I never got too close with them. So I kept to myself for most of my freshman year, which I hated. The only good thing about freshman year is that i joined this club and made some pretty good friends there. Now I’m starting my sophomore year, and I’m not sure things will be that much different. I moved into a substance free dorm this year thinking I’d meet more people like me, but everyone here either knows each other already or just doesn’t socialize at all, so I’m having the same problems with making friends as I did my freshman year. Even my roommate is this little Indian kid who doesn’t do anything outside of school work so I can’t even relate to him! You might say that I should hang out with those friends I made as a part of that club, but they usually hang out with their OTHER friends not in this club. Plus they all drink..so I really feel awkward going to parties with them. I don’t know what to do...I was thinking of transferring last year, but I don’t know if that’s going to help at all. I was the “leader” of my group of friends in high school and now they all go to different schools. Now I feel like a have next to no one and feel like a total loser. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to make friends. Everyone always says college is an amazing experience, but I’m consistently finding it to be miserable for this reason. Should I go back home and commute?

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    If you purposefully look for friends, you won't find them. But if you walk your own path, people will migrate naturally TO you instead of you trying to fit into THEIR world. In other words, be down with yourself first and others will be down with you. College truly is an amazing experience when you figure out that you're not there for anyone except you. Be constructive and try not to be so hard on yourself.

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Don't go back home. You need to change your state of mind. In that paragraph I just saw you as a gloomy, non- talker, walk with their eyes to the ground kind of person. You see yourself as so little, and people can see that show them what makes you different, be open. Talk to a person until you find something in common, then start there. The worst thing people can do to you is not like you, then move on to the next person. Do you have any other activities? Go there and talk to those people. New year, new person, just believe, watch the change.

You don't have to drink to go to parties. If anything, go for the social aspect.

Me too ihave no friends. Just talk to them

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