Scared of the things that go on in college?

this is hilarious. im a senior and i am also applying to colleges, but y do these things scare u. if u think about it, all of these activities are happening in your high school, bt do u take part in it, NO. im not scared of campus life b/c i know these things will happen bt its your choice. my plan is to just get a lil bit of friends, go to class and study. yes i will ahve more freedom and ppl say college changes u, but i have standards nd i will not do certain things, such as drugs. smoking and alcohol is so unattractive.. just continue to be true to yourself and if college scares u that much u may just need to go to a tech.

Whether you go to college now, or do something else, you are going to be exposed to people in your life who don't live by your standards and values. At a minimum, you need to learn that you can live your own life and not be forced to do things that don't feel right to you, just because other people are doing them. Many people (even people who don't share your beliefs) will respect you for being true to yourself; as for the ones who don't, well, what do you care what they think? Beyond that...if you're ever going to get along with people, you're going to need to loosen up and be a whole lot less judgmental and rigid in that black-and-white worldview you've got. Nobody is "perfect" (even accepting your standard of what "perfect" means, for a moment, which many people don't). Believe it or not, people who do some of the things you condemn so righteously can still be good and worthwhile human beings. If you limit yourself to only spending time to people who carefully walk that straight-and-narrow path you demand, for their entire lives, you're likely to have a very lonely life. You're also setting yourself up for one hell of a fall when the day comes (as it does for everyone) that you do or say or feel something that doesn't live up to your own impossibly-high standards.

First off it really depends on the college. If you HATE parties then go to Brigham Young, it's pretty much banned there. At any school there will be parties and people doing dumb stuff. But if you go to a big school it's pretty easy to find people and events that don't have to do with alcohol or drugs.

you know your an adult know and the worlds a really big place you can get new friends outside of collage and do other things besides drugs you could go to a paintball course get into the dog show pageant circuit join a group of paranormal investigators go to your local gym and become one of those female boxers volentar at your local homless shelter jooin a stamp collection club enter a rubix cube solving contest you dont need to go to campus exept for classes if you dont want to just find a new group of friends and theres a unimaginable list of interests you can have besides going to partys

You sound pretty short-sighted about this. Are you willing to skip college because some people might make questionable decisions there? If you aren't worried about yourself then go, just don't participate in the activities you don't agree with. That said, college is, for many, a time to go a little crazy and be reasonably care free, which I don't think anyone should be judged for unless they are hurting others. I have fun in college (no random sex or drugs, but I do drink), but I don't force any one to join me (although I have lots of friends who do). One of my very best friends will not drink because of her religious values, but is still my friend and accepts me for who I am. What is more, she comes out with me to bars and parties and dances and has fun, but doesn't participate in other activities. I think it sounds like maybe you are not mature enough to go to college, where you have to be responsible for yourself and learn to live in a diverse atmosphere where you won't agree with everything others are doing. I am at a huge state school and I lived in the honors dorm my freshman year. It was very quite, mostly studying and sleeping went on there, if you wanted to party you went to another dorm or frat house or somewhere to party and go wild. It was the best of both worlds.

so your saying people who have fun arent adults? what facilitates being an "adult"? is it someone who wears a tie and suit and drinks coffee every morning reading the paper? boy is your mind twisted

A so thers have said, these things are NOT mandatory and you can simply say no. And no one can `force`you to do anything you do not want. At that age, anyone who tries to force anything on you can be arrested, tried and sent to jail. And if you are that worried about the dorms, go to a Christian school. There are lots of them out there. Vanguard University in Costa Mesa, California is a quiet Christian school in a very nice area.

I'm not going to sit here and read this entire wall of text. I mean really now. If there is something that goes on in college that you don't want to do, JUST DON'T DO IT. Living on campus doesn't mean you HAVE to party, have sex, do drugs, etc. By the time you get to college you're an adult. Act like one and make decisions about your own life.

Not every campus hall is going to be like this. In fact, one has to be pretty lucky (or unlucky) to fall upon such circumstances! Yes, there will be parties, and sex, and everything that happens when there's no parents around. But no-one's saying you have to partake in these things :/