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WHY did he do this? REALLY confused about this guy?

• There's a guy I met when I was 16, at church. We'll call him Alex. I liked him, but the feeling wasnt mutual. I got to know him and his family pretty well, and am okay friends with his younger sister. So I kind of let it go, and let those feelings crawl off to die. The summer after Alex started uni, he needed a job and my dad hired him. I also work, so we ended up spending the summer together. Weird stuff would happen..we'd end up in in the building with all the lights off, talking. Or he would make fun of my butt. He worked for us til februrary. I text him occasionally--no more so than I text my friends. I wrote him happy halloween. He wrote me back and was like "You can call me in 20 minutes." He called me a month ago, TWICE, and I was in a meeting and couldnt answer. Then the next day he texted me out of the blue, "You never called me." I was on my way to my tutor’s, and she lives around the corner from his parents house. While I was right in front of the house he called me. To tell me some joke. And he told me he couldnt come out--that he was naked. Then he invited me in. And..he wasnt naked. So there I was, alone with him in his house... It was so bizarre. He kept grinning. His mom was on her way home, and I knew she wouldn’t react well if she walked in and found me sitting in her kitchen, with her son. He invited me to stay for dinner, ‘I’ll tell her youre my secret gf.“ I texted him and was messing with him and said something like “I love you, but youre stupid.“ He wrote me back, “How long have you loved me?“ Then he wrote, “I don’t like you because you have liked me for so long and only hint about it and wont just tell me and you never try to hang out with me or get to know me.“ Somehow this progressed to, “You don’t know what I would have said because you never asked” to “ I like a girl for who she is and not how hot she is” to finally, the GUT PUNCH: “I like you as a sister but what I do knowa bout you is it does not seem you are my type.“ So alls wells that ends well,, after FOUR years, but I’m pissed. WHY did he bait me into a conversation like that, and keep bugging me, if THAT was the conclusion he already HAD? We’re 20. He’s never had a gf.

• Answer:

  ahh, youth. it is indeed wasted on the young. some guys just don't know what they want until they have it, and then they don't want it anymore. playing "hard to get" would've been your better option, if you really wanted him. he probably wanted to be with you for as long as you wanted him, but he either didn't realize it, or you were just there in the back of his mind. but he wanted to see how eager you were, and maybe he's just not ready for a relationship, but wanted to test the waters. it COULD be that he JUST came up with that conclusion as you spoke, but wanted to seem like he had already come to that conclusion so that you wouldn't try to talk him out of it. guys are pretty stupid like that. at any rate, i doubt he has "lost interest" or else why would he still want to maintain contact with a "girl like you" who is "not his type"? i wouldn't try to argue the point with him. i would just move on. and if things aren't progressing to your pace, simply find another guy. there's no reason to stay with him if he's already shunted you.