What are some non-verbal body language signs to make you confident and attractive?

there are several types of body language that males tend to present unconsciously. it's thought to be evolutionary. after all, we're behavioral animals. parting the legs. you might notice this when you see a bunch of dudes standing outside the office building smoking cigarettes. they all have their legs somewhat apart. some of them even have their arms crossed. this stance is thought to be used by males to "broaden" their build. you'll notice that we square our shoulders while we do it. it's also more commonly seen when men intermingle with women. even from a man's perspective, you'll notice that a guy who stands with his shoulders squared and his feet apart seems somewhat "tougher" or "confident." you'll notice bouncers doing it at club entrances. pointing the toes. this is done by both males and females. generally it indicates a set "point of interest." when someone sits across from you, crosses one leg over the other and points his/her toes in your direction, it indicates some form of interest. eye contact. always a crucial one. you ever try talking to someone who's not looking at you? it's very difficult and you get discouraged. eye contact shows confidence and direction, as well as interest. smiling. unlike other mammals, baring the teeth isn't considered a threat amongst homo sapiens. the general phenomenon is that people will strive to mimic or reproduce each other's facial expressions in order to establish a common ground. in other words, if you smile, the other person will smile automatically (unless they're preoccupied with a particularly negative emotion). hence the phrase "disarming smile." preening. humans do it too, just as birds do. male peacocks preen their tail feathers to attract females. once they find potential mates they'll show off their tail feathers. when you see men tussling their hair, picking invisible specks off their shirts, straightening their collars, or stroking their beards, they're preening, and it generally means that they have an active interest in the female across from them. women also preen. they'll twirl/toss their hair, pull their hair behind their ears, or flatten their dresses. revealing sensitive areas of the body is also a sign of attraction. for example, revealing the ear (beneath the hair) may be a sign that they want to listen, or that they're willing to expose a sense organ to a situation. just as we're extremely sensitive to sight, we're also very sensitive to sound (one reason why we tend to avoid eye contact or shy away when people try to whisper into our ears). sometimes people don't pick up on each other's signals, primarily because they have expectations of their own that don't coincide well with what they observe. for example, a man may be more focused on what a woman says rather than what her body expresses. sometimes the two aren't parallel, and the man may end up feeling disappointed. the goal is to know what it is the other person tends to observe. are they sensitive to physical behavior or to words? we're all primed to a degree, but a lot of times our brains get the best of us.

Don't cross your arms over your chest. That makes you look -- and feel! -- defensive and/or confrontational. Stand or sit up straight. Don't walk around looking at the ground. Look around; let people see that you're interested in your surroundings. Make eye contact and show some interest when you meet someone, when someone speaks to you, and when you speak to someone. Smile often.

Eye contact is a biggie. And don't slouch!