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How do I get over the fear of being cheated on?

  • My fear of cheating is stopping me from getting into a relationship. We have all been cheated on, yes it sucks, but after finding out 70% of men have cheated before that makes me absolutely terrified to get into something again. I do have high expectations of cheating I do consider a lot of things cheating that a lot of people wouldn't--like flirting. I just got out of a long term relationship that wasn't working for several reasons but the cheating was mutual and we both had high expectations of the other person about cheating. I knew I could trust him. But the whole, "cheating is the most wrong thing a guy can do in a relationship" mentality is so hard to find. In fact, most people blame the other person. They say, "You weren't making me happy so I cheated on you," and thats the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. I feel like its hard finding a guy who takes a relationship as serious as I do, everyone seems to be screwing around around me. I am young, and that sort of scares me. I know a lot of guys don't want to settle down and just want to have fun, but I'm not in that mind frame whatsoever. I don't want to just lock myself up from all possible relationships though just because of this fear. I know its trust and commitment, but just because a guy says he wont cheat doesn't mean he wont. I posted this in s&d but didn't get many responses so thought I would try here.

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    You won't.until you wait and find the right person.Not everyone cheats,only insecure self centered people.If you do not trust a person there is no use getting involved.Unless you only want sex,then later a loss.Sometimes being alone can make you happier.Lust is a sorry excuse to ruin a marriage and lives.

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Be open with your partner and see/ask if he/she likes anyone else. Also, try to show him/her that there's no one better for them out there than you. Talk a lot and be honest with eachother.

Joseph

Ohmygosh, I know how you feel. I never wanted to be in a relationship in Middle School because I felt all the guys were stupid and didn't want a long-lasting relationship, so I thought it was completely pointless. In 9th grade, however, I "met" this guy at church.. [I say met in quotation marks because we've met before, a couple years ago, but haven't seen one another since] after a few months, he told me that he's liked me ever since he met me, and when I started liking him too, we got closer and closer and then started dating. We've been together for almost 5 months now, and ever since the beginning I've known he has no intention of ever cheating on me. Even when the opportunity presented itself, he told me about it and how he reacted. [He didn't give in to it.] And I've been the same with him. All I'm saying is, you can't be sure. You just have to trust him. Find a guy, get to know him and how he works, and let it go from there. If he's really serious about it, he'll prove it to you somehow. Don't constantly freak out about it or doubt him, that'll just annoy him and he'll feel that you don't trust him, and that the relationship is pointless since you don't think he'll be faithful. [Trust me, we almost broke up because of me acting like that.] You may not want to go in blindfolded, so be his friend first before trying to be in a relationship and learn about his habits and things.. The best relationships start out as just being friends. I mean, after all, marriage is spending the rest of your life with your best friend, right? :]

The Froggy Girl

I can answer this without even reading the whole thing. Don't date someone you don't know...get to know them first and for the most part it is fairly obvious if this person cant be trusted. Go for it when you know this person and are comfortable with them. If you can trust them with something large like taking care of a pet while your gone or something similar. The only way to get over a fear is to confront it and 99.9% of the time its not as bad or doesn't happen. Even if it does happen just think of it this way you have learned how to pick out a person who might cheat so next time it wont happen. Sometimes you just need experience.

Deviljho

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