Why can't I see the video I recently watched?

I watched my girlfriends secret video, what should I do?

• OK, long story short, I took a 2 month break from my current relationship while I was traveling, and in that time she did see someone else for about a month - I did not see anyone else on the other hand. I am not mad about it, other than at my self, as the break was my idea. But in general I am fine with it and happy to be with her. BUT I use her computer a lot, and several days ago I was looking for a picture she had taken I wanted to upload and was kind of looking through really random folders and I found a sex video. It is such a coincidence I ever looked there, but I kind of instantly knew what it was. I watched a bit when I found it to see what it was, but stopped when the clothes started coming off. So I debated whether to watch it for several days, and finally I watched a bit more, and stopped watching again when the foreplay intensified. Watching made me sick but I just couldn't get it out of my head, so I finally watched the whole thing. The whole video is about 40 minutes, with about half an hour of sex, but it felt like eternity to watch. Now that I gave in to my curiosity I and watched it, I feel so guilty that I invaded her privacy and saw what I shouldnt have. I cant stop thinking about what I saw, especially her going down on him, since she almost never does that with me. At first I was angry she had kept it, but now I feel worse about secretly watching...so should I tell her or what? How do I explain that I watched the entire thing??

• Answer:

  Wow, that's a tough situation to be in. Would you feel better about it if you told her? Would the guilt eat you alive, or do you think after time you'd be okay with it? How do you think she'd react? You need to consider these things. If I were you, I wouldn't bring it up. It will make you both feel uncomfortable and awkward. Yes, you shouldn't have invaded her privacy and watched it, but on the other hand, if she's with you now, she should get rid of the video. Also, don't feel guilty about watching it-human beings are curious by nature. If you feel you'll feel better if you talk to her about it, go ahead, but you most likely wont get a good response from her in return. You don't have to tell her you watched the whole thing...just say you curiously clicked on it and "skimmed" through it. Tell her that although you weren't with her at the time, you aren't mad about the video itself, but you don't feel comfortable with her still having the video since you and her are together now. Good luck!