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How do I deal with an overly assertive and outgoing co-worker?

How can i deal with this rude coworker?

  • I work as a cashier (at a retail store which is known for low prices) where most women there don't really care about how they look. I didn't want to look dull and frumpy so I put effort into how I look. I put on a little bit of makeup and do my hair. one woman there has told me numerous times how I will attract perverts and make other women jealous who come thru my line. She has also told me to tone down my makeup and how to wear it even though I have never asked for any advice or opinions about how I look. She thought I cut my hair and told me not to cut my hair anymore. She noticed that I wasn't wearing my engagement ring and said something to me about it. I don't wear my ring anymore because I'm pregnant and my fingers are too big for the ring, but she doesn't know this. She has stressed me out at this point since this has been going on for 2 months off and on. Should I approach her and tell her not to say anything to me anymore or should I just wait until she approaches me about how I look. I have been pleasant with her and let her say what she wants to say. I have told her how I look makes me happy, but still she doesn't care. How is the best way to handle this? Also, there are only a couple of other women who care about how they look, but she hasn't said anything to them .

  • Answer:

    talk to your manager about it

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Nobody should have to put up with any form of bullying or harassment at work (and this is what this is) - any company worth their salt will have clear policies & procedures on this. You could try asking her to stop her remarks, but to be honest if I were you I'd speak to your line manager about it.

Just remind her once again, that you've already told her you like the way you look and you would appreciate it if she would stop making remarks about it.

talk to your manager about it

Pearl L

Smile politely and say, "thanks. I'll keep that in mind." Repeat as necessary. There's no answer to that, and you just keep on doing what you're doing. Really, there's no need to let her get to you. If you get upset and yell at her, what good will that do? She's mental, and her reaction might be anything from becoming violent to crying. If she cries, I guarantee you'll feel like a worm, especially if she thought she was being "kind." It takes all types of people to make a world, and while she may be obnoxious she may be seeing it differently. Kindness is never a bad idea. and since it's not that big a deal just smile and say, "thanks, I'll keep that in mind."

Just remind her once again, that you've already told her you like the way you look and you would appreciate it if she would stop making remarks about it.

Nobody should have to put up with any form of bullying or harassment at work (and this is what this is) - any company worth their salt will have clear policies & procedures on this. You could try asking her to stop her remarks, but to be honest if I were you I'd speak to your line manager about it.

fiona

Smile politely and say, "thanks. I'll keep that in mind." Repeat as necessary. There's no answer to that, and you just keep on doing what you're doing. Really, there's no need to let her get to you. If you get upset and yell at her, what good will that do? She's mental, and her reaction might be anything from becoming violent to crying. If she cries, I guarantee you'll feel like a worm, especially if she thought she was being "kind." It takes all types of people to make a world, and while she may be obnoxious she may be seeing it differently. Kindness is never a bad idea. and since it's not that big a deal just smile and say, "thanks, I'll keep that in mind."

slap that b*tch out!

Cheeko

personally, i would wait until she says something again and then just look her in the face and say, "Geez, you seem really concerned with my personal appearance...why is that?" try to look like you are sincerely concerned...then whatever she says to you--respond, "I appreciate your concern, but I am not your daughter, and I didn't ask for advice, so I'll thank you to keep your opinions to yourself." you gotta nip this in the bud--sounds like she's jealous --but she doesn't have the right to make personal comments to you...she ain't your mama!

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