How do i get a christian guy to notice me?

• I have been going to this Christian youth club where there is a guy that is a really dedicated Christian. I really like him but I can't get him to notice me. He is really popular while I am more of the shy type.(And no, I don't want to just go up and start a conversation with him or blatantly tell him that I like him, that's just weird.) He's not the average guy because he's not that interested in looks. He's more interested in having a serious relationship with a dedicated Christian girl who has a great personality (so I've heard) but how do I get him to realise that I'm that kind of person if he doesn't even notice me.

• Answer:

  You get him to notice you like you get any guy to notice you. Find out what his interests are, learn about them and bring them up in conversation with someone else in the group. He will either hear you, or your interests will get back to him through the gossip line. If he intends to become a missionary, decide if that life might be for you, and start discussing it with others in the group. If he wants to join the Peace Corp. learn about it and talk about it with others. He will take notice. If he likes foods of some sort, bring a batch of homemade goodies to the meeting. The old saying that "the way to man's heart is through his stomach" is an enduring old saying for a reason...it is fairly true. The second way to a man's heart is through his friends. Who are his friends? Try to make friends with some of them. Go shopping, go to coffee, talk about homework, pair up with the friends for job hunting or car pooling...to work, school, bible studies, or the Christian meetings. The third way to a man's heart is through his mother. Most guys don't like to admit it, but they love and respect their mothers...probably more than their dads. Find out what she is like. What does she do for a living? How does she dress? Who does she hang around at church? What activities does she participate in. Listen to her conversations, and join in if you can. He will take notice. The fourth way to a guy's heart is through his ego. The girl who knows how to make him feel important will get him. Once you get his attention, and he starts chatting, you need to get him to talk about his self. Let him brag, and act interested in whatever dumb things he has to talk about....and there will be some real dumb things. Then go home and learn as much as you can about them. Next time you see him, ask about one of them, and let him talk. When you can, act a little helpless. You don't need to go overboard. Even something as simple as asking him to open a bag of chips for you, or helping you with the clasp on a neck chain or bracelet will register inside him as having come to your rescue. Guys like to be needed. Lastly, you should always keep this in mind. He is a guy. He is a Christian, but he is a guy. Once you have his attention, The sweet Mary Goody Two Shoes shy girl, isn't going to keep his attention. When you are dating, you will need to walk the line between Christian and "teasing" for lack of a better word. Depending on your ages, you let him get just far enough to fall in love, but no so far as to compromise your core beliefs and his. You will have to be in control, because, a guy will quit thinking with his Christianity, and he will go as far as you will allow. The older the two of you are, the more likely he is to go for it. If you are under age, and if he is truly Christian and you let him go all the way, he will lose respect for you. If you are both adults, and have been dating for a few months so that you have really gotten to know each other, even though you are Christians, you are humans.