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Questionable Small Business Owner's Christmas Card to Female CFO?

• After working at a business for over 13 years at the company a newly promoted (& married for 25 years, good looking) female CFO (age 49) of a 10 million in sales business receives a Christmas card from her boss the Company President / Owner (age 60 who lost over 100 lbs from surgery some time ago) He is also married for years but to an alcoholic. Other Background; in the past 4 months the Female CFO has had a large number of weekly closed door long meeting in the owners office and meetings at an off site condo (lunch and after work hours) that is also owned by the business owner. They leave and return in separate vehicles a minute or two apart but employees have seen their two vehicles together off site with no other cars anywhere near them. Unbeknown to them its very noticeable at work. A month and a half after her promotion which was in the works for 2 months before becoming effective 10/1, the female CFO told her husband she wants a divorce. Having seen his Christmas card to her I made a copy unknown to them. the front of the card reads "You're in My Heart at Christmas" The inside is printed "You're someone who's genuinely caring and giving, someone who listens eith an understanding heart. And especially at Christmas, I'm so thankful that I have someone like you in my life. Merry Christmas" The owner double underlined thankful and merry Christmas and added this working with signature. "I Love You & Thank You For Loving Me. & Bright Future" Is it possible they are just friends who developed a a close business relationship over the past 5 months? Or is an affair going on as many suspect? The company is involved in a sexual harassment law suite at present (different employees involved). With all the large amount of layoffs we have had no one wants to step up and say anything. Should a secret copy be sent to the parties, their spouses or ?? What to do say or ???

• Answer:

  This doesn't sound like sexual harassment to me, just 2 people having an affair. I don't think the fact that they are both married has anything to do with it. I'd agree that it's wrong for married people to cheat, but that doesn't mean you have any right or business trying to cause trouble for them. If it was a larger company or there were shareholders involved, there might be rules on employee-boss dating. Most companies wouldn't allow that, but if this is a private company and he is the owner, he makes the rules and can do whatever he wants. It doesn't seem like he's doing anything illegal. If there is any sexual harassment, unless there are witnesses, only she will know and only she can file a complaint, lawsuit, etc. I can only think of 3 exceptions where you might want to expose the affair: 1. You were denied a promotion because the woman the boss is having an affair with got the promotion instead. But filing a complaint or lawsuit would be risky, and you'd have to prove that you didn't get the promotion because the other person was "putting out" and not because she was better qualified. 2. You hate your boss and he's a jerk, cheapskate, paying you peanuts and making tons of money for himself, treating you like garbage, etc. If you wanted to cause trouble for him you could "rat" him out and mess him up, but just be careful that you don't get caught - otherwise you'll be fired and won't be able to use him for a reference. 3. You are close personal friends with the boss' wife. But then you'd be telling her because she's your friend, not because of anything having to do with work. Otherwise, if you don't hate your boss, I think you should just mind your own business because it's their lives and affair. Even if you hate him, I still think it's better to stay out of it. Unless whatever is going on is affecting your job, it really doesn't have anything to do with you. You could always hold on to the evidence you have, but blackmail is illegal so I wouldn't suggest that.