How should I ask a girl out?

How do I ask a girl if she likes me more than a friend?

• Hi there, would just like a little help in asking someone how they really feel about me. I must begin by saying that I am already in a relationship of nearly 4 years with a girl and I am 23 years old. My relationship with my girlfriend I would say is not going very well, however she tells me she's happy, but im not sure I feel the same way. I have trust issues with her as I have found numerous texts on her phone on many different occasions with differet males which contained content which was far more than flirting. Im pretty sure she has never cheated on me, but cant be definately she whether she has or not or ever will. She is contantly texting on her phone and I just never know who to, she gets very shady when I ask her who's she texting and now she doesnt leave her phone out of her sight, I wonder why. I know I sound like I am insecure, but I think I am, a long time a go when I saw these messages I knew I had good reason to go through her phone as I knew something was up, but when I saw the texts ive never really been able to trust her since. Anyway I have known for a long time I have needed to end this relationship, but she begs me not to leave her, she always tells me she wants to get engaged and that shes happy, but yet she will text other lads rude things, I just cant comprehend it, just doesnt make sense to me. I personally feel that I drove her to do those things as I may not been given her the attention she wants, but she says thats not the case, she says she simply doesnt have an answer to why she text those things. I know I must end the relationship as we are just going through the same routine, nothing feels exciting anymore, especially on my part. But the worst thing is I am so scared of change I cant bring myself to do it. I know she wont do it so I am going to have to bite the bullet and go through with it at some point, but not so easy when your living together, thats why I have been riding this same wave for probably going on 2 years now. Now dont get me wrong, it wouldnt be an easy task I still have much love for her as I wouldnt have let this go on for so long. Right now here the question I really want to ask.... Basically, me and this girl work together and have become good friends. It all started when we went out for a works party and we ended up getting quite close, didnt kiss or anything but thats when I realised she may like me. Over the last 4 months since that works party I have not been able to get her out of my head, to the point that its driving me quite nuts, she is pretty much all I think about. It doesnt help that we work together as we are seeing eachother every day, even more than I see of my actual girlfriend. Me and this girl, we did text quite abit after the works party and could tell just from the texts she likes me. We dont text half as much now, but when we do they are always so sweet loving messages expressing nice things, never obscene, just always nice things. We call eachother nice names in work and flirt quite abit, but I dont know if she feels she has to because shes been doing it for months now and thinks she doesnt want to upset me by acting different any different, or that she really does like still me but does not want to make any sort of move because she is aware that I have a girlfriend, which very well may be the case but im not sure. This girl has never directally said that she likes me or wants to go out with me. I am always thinking about her and I need to know how she feels about me. I want to ask her if she thinks of me more than a friend without making her feel uncomfortable and saying it in such a way that it doesnt feel like rejection if she doesnt feel the same. We work quite close together so it would be very difficult if I am wrong about how she feels. I am pretty confident I know how she feels but I could be totally wrong. I must have this answer from her now. I have read many accounts where girls get scared when a guy tells them directly how they feel, thats why I want to be subtle and ask her in such a way that its easy for the both of us without being too subtle, any ideas? I know me being in a relationship complicates this matter further, but I feel I need the answer from her so I could at least move on from not thinking about her so much. I would then have to wise up and seriously consider whether I want to be in my current relationship and really try to make another go of it. Or actually, I know I should really end the relationship first, but I dont think ive ever truly wanted that either. Thats why my head is so stuch in a rut. I have become quite depressed because of this whole situation and would appreciate any advise greatly as I am just so confused. Thank you very much.

• Answer:

  UMM, that's a hard one. I would say ask her if she likes you more than a friend text her or do it in person. Girls like it if your up front with them. As for your girlfriend BRAKE UP WITH HER DUDE!! She is being stupid, if this girl accually cared about you she would NOT treat you like that! if you have anymore ??'s Contact me [email protected]