Am I a Bad Person Plz Help I'm Upset?

• Am I a Bad Person Plz Help I'm Upset? Hi what do i do in this situation and am i a bad person? Its a long story so this is the simplified verison. 1. This girl had a crush on me for 2 years. She then started being creepy and a stalker 2. Her friends were not anymore but creepy at first, they said things like "hey i know ur sister" when we first met. 3. The worst part is she use too tell me on facebook message not in person that people thought I was a fag and that theres a lot of people that hated me. This bothered me so much it had upset me. I asked her who is saying this stuff and she says she cant tell me :( 4. Eventually she told me who is calling me a fag and stuff and who hates me but idk if what she said is even true. She is kinda annoying me everyday on fb chat and she bullied me. 5. After 2 years of her liking me she says she stops liking me. I didnt get a good impression of her so i still today im annoyed at her. i dont hate her i just find her annoying. 6. She will be in my highschool for the next 4 years and will be beside my locker until university. Also my dad knows her dad cause they went to the same school!!! 7. Everyday she usetoo say "lets hang out" but i always make an excuse not too. 8. I broke a promise with her saying that i would be her friend but i didnt. Also she gets mad when i talk to other girls and she cried so much when i told her i didnt like her and i dont wan to go out on a date. 9. She told other people that i was dating her which i was not and then people bullied me cause of that 10. FINALLY today she stops talking to me because i have ignored her so much and stayed away from her, but now she HATES ME! The problem is she sent me a long message on fb telling me how she hated me and it makes me feel bad cause i ignored her. She says that "why are u ignoring me i did nothing i just want to be your friend". I dont want to be her friend cause she is annoying and she use too bully me and i got a bad impression from her SOMEONE PLZ HELP ME, CAUSE AM I BAD PERSON CAUSE I IGNORED HER AND BROKE HER PROMISE CAUSE I DONT WANT TO BE HER FRIEND? ALSO!!!!! LISTEN TO THIS, I HEARD RUMORS THAT SHE MIGHT SPREAD FAKE RUMORS ABOUT ME TO OTHER PEOPLE NOW CAUSE SHE IS SO MAD AND SHE MIGHT BLACKMAIL ME

• Answer:

  First off- let's make it clear that, from what I can tell, everything that you have stated above is causing you to feel like a bad person. Truth is- you're not. The girl is. She is the center of your problems. Getting rid of that problem will likely get rid of the stress in your life. This girl sounds like she needs to grow up and get a swift taste of reality. 1. Being creepy and stalking is going to far. Anyone knows that- except her. 2. She sounds like she's getting her friends involved. Anyone involved with her has probably been influenced with her stupidity. I wouldn't be all too "friendly" with them. 3. I think she's trying to make a serious scenario by lying. By doing that, she gets your attention. To that extent- as in what she said- it is clear you would want to know who. Well, if you want to know who- you would ask her, since she said she knows who. Thus, she DOES get your attention- likely by lying. 4. Once again- getting your attention through- what sounds like- lies. If it took her long enough to finally say her- she probably is lying. Then she BULLIES you? She shouldn't bully you. That's ridiculous. Chatting to you EVERYDAY? She sounds desperate and clingy. Those two things are what annoy most people. 5 and 9. This girl isn't a good impression AT ALL. I don't blame you for being annoyed. Annoyance, however, does tend to lead people to be harsh to one another. If she annoys you this much, she's not worth your time. If she said she stopped liking you, she shouldn't have said LIES about that you two were dating. If she didn't like you, then why would you be suddenly "dating?" There's a difference between dislike and hate. You clearly stated you dislike her- likely because you are annoyed with her. She should know this. If she doesn't, that's her problem. The people who bully you don't have a clue. Disregard them. 6. If she talks to you, you are just going to have to ignore her. Don't even say anything to her. She sounds like a back- stabbing lowlife. 7. You made an excuse not to hang out because you were annoyed. Perfectly understandable, however, this is probably what lead to her thinking you hate her. 8. You sound like a decent person- from what I can tell. I think you were trying to be her friend the entire time by not telling her to, literally, "piss off" (in terms,) but the way she kept acting annoyed you. The annoyance lead you to avoid her. Friendship is a promise, but she is treating that promise as a label. Mad when you talk to other girls? Really? She's a jealous, desperate, lowlife that needs to grow up. Life's conversations aren't all about her. Crying when you told her you don't like her and don't want to go on a date? What a wuss. Once again, she needs to grow up and stop being so blind to the truth. The truth that SHE doesn't want to accept. 10. She stopped talking to you. That's a very good thing. Make sure it stays that way. If she hates you- that's HER problem. HER problem for being the way she was and acting the way she did. You gave her PLENTY of opportunity to be your friend by not hating her. HER problem she didn't change. Your ignoring her because of the SHE acts. SHE isn't "innocent." SHE caused you unneeded problems. If she's going to be your friend, or even WANT to be your friend- she wouldn't be acting the way she is. Look, she's IS a bad impression and you don't need to deal with a lowlife like her. - No, you are not a bad person. You broke the promise because of her. If she was acting different, you wouldn't have broken the promise. Don't be her friend. You sound like a decent person, and I can guarantee you she's just going to cause you more problems. - You heard from rumors from who from who? Could that be instead: you heard LIES that she might spread LIES from HER friends in which SHE started the LIES. If she's really mad and she's already such an immature wuss, she's going to be the center of these rumors. You are going to have to ignore them. Also, don't worry about it. You alone know what is true, and if others are too blind to realize that, that is their problem and you can't do anything about them. ______________________________________... I'm a person who is very loyal to word, and I make connections often. Sorry if this is confusing. I wish you luck :)