HOw much is the price of a swensens cake ordered online?

Should I wait for the counselling?

• Deep down my heart has mostly left the marriage. Today is our 1 year anniversary. I was told not to spend any money on her. She told me that the presents are not worth the price and the money is better served to save for a house. That's all she wants from me. But that makes my needs (which include being appreciated for buying thoughtful gifts with meaning) go unmet. I bought a nice bouquet of sunflowers and she said they are not worth it despite the fact that I thought it would be nice to buy her favourite flower. For our one year wedding anniversary I ordered a heart shape cake, hand selected a bunch of flowers (tulips, roses and heliconia - lots of yellow to represent the American tradition), some nice photos for the paper aspect and a great leather wine box with the tools and a bottle of bortrytis semillon sweet dessert wine. I'm getting up really early to prepare a nice breakfast before her work and on Monday after her work, we will hopefully have the chance to enjoy a nice lunch before I go to work. Sounds good right? Only if it is appreciated. I hate it that she tells me not to buy anything and then connects every night with her fellow country men on the chat line and ignores me. I'm a little jealous of that. I have been suffering ED which I'm very sure is related to my extremely hurt feelings that I've had a hard time communicating to her. I just feel my needs are not met and I'm left ignored, disrespected, used and abused (I can't heal the wounds so easily from being hit and yelled at, and being put down). Our first year of marriage has suffered a lot of damage. These days I think a lot about what else is out there and if anyone else could meet my needs?

• Answer:

  Given that it's only been a year, I'm sure she hasn't undergone any radical changes. So the question is, why did YOU decide to marry a woman who doesn't meet your needs???