How do I e-mail someone?

How can someone break up over email (I'll explain why in the more details space if you click this question.)?

• Well I got tired of being forever alone (and im gay so that makes it even harder o find someone.), so I went online and foun this website called trevorspace, and I met someone, but they lived in Australia. I really only continued with them because there wasnt anyone on trevorspace in a hundred mile radius of me, and then once you got to that hundred miles, there were two people. So I continued to email him even though I wanted to find someone in my area. After emailing him for a while he is plenty nice, but there is an 18 hour time difference between us, and he wants me to email him a long email once a day. (I admit I'm lazy, but I would just prefer to talk to someone, than have to do a long email everyday. Talking is easier, and feel like I could connect with someone better. It's hard to connect with an email.) but I continued with him, and now looking at it, I'm realizing that the only reason is because I'm desperate, but even then I would have enough sense to not go out with someone in Australia its just too far, I want someone local. Now I'm going into way too much detail, I'll just sum the rest up. No I haven't skyped with him, so I take everything he says with a huge grain of salt. But if what he is saying is the truth, then he has broken up with so many people so many times, and had his heart broken so many times that I just don't want to do it again. I'm not just going to drop off of the face of the earth to him, because that is why happened to all the people before me, they just stopped emailing. I would feel terrible if I did that to him. So what should I say (in general, I know I couldnt get an exact thing to say on here, that would be impossible unless I put on here all if the emails. And even then I would probably have to tweak it.) Sorry for rambling. And I doubt anyone would notice, but just in case, yes I asked what I should do about a list of problems but I deleted it because I felt I was being idiotic. It's sad that I'm coming onto yahoo answers for break up advice, lol. Proof that I have no one to talk to about this.

• Answer:

  You're fine - a lot of people come for advice here. Granted, I would feel just as awkward as you do speaking to strangers online (and from the point of view of a guy who gives out advice, sometimes it seems futile and/or ridiculous that I'm viewed as an "expert"). Getting to your problem, though, I would say that you just let him know a relationship just doesn't seem possible. Regardless of what he expects of you, the distance is too great, especially if you haven't met. And having a boyfriend you only know from online correspondence, while it's not pathetic, it's unrealistic. Communication is key to a good relationship - but communication in all its forms: body language and tone of voice, as well as the words you say. If it's just through e-mail, then all you have is words... and you lack the rest, which can say so much. At the very least, boyfriends call each other - and clearly with the hour difference, it's not something you can easily do. Just tell him what you told us - you feel you're doing this out of desperation, you don't want to break his heart or just plain stop talking to him (maybe you can add him on Facebook? Just a thought), but you don't want to take this further and get more serious only to break his heart in the end.