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My mom is afraid of being attacked by witches, how can I enhance our daily relations?

  • I'm 17 years old and my mom is 50. I'm going through an age in which I find myself not having a thing in common with her. I'm in high school, I'm taking the IB so I have no time for anything besides school stuff. I have a boyfreind I love so much, avents, parties, friends ... a life.My mom is a woman who spends her life watching TV (specifically hollow non-sense womanly tv series), besides that, the only thing I know she does is painting her face over and over all the way around. I could say she's got some kind of insecurity disorder, but anyway. I'm going to study abroad into some months, as much into one - two years, so I'll finally be free of her. However, meanwhile I just would like to keep on on a decent relationship with her. Today, we just had a discussion because she told me she was afraid of witches trying to attack her and provoke her sicknesses and bad stuff. I'm sick of her obsessive behaviour that I only replied to her "things exist as long as you believe in them", which I consider pretty much an educated way to ask her being less obessive, and even make her regarding things into a different perspective. But NO! she came over my room yelling off at me that I'm so rude, and evil and that bunches of stuff .... I said nothing. I just promised I will try to talk her the least possible here on after. But, I would actually like to have a good relationship with her. The thing I hate the most about her is that she is so narrow-minded that she cannot hear a "negative" comment about anyone, specially her. Then, she understands as negative anything different to praising or trivial comments like "I hope you get better" or "that's so interesting" ! I'm sick of superficial treatment! That means, I could never convey her in any way, the things that discomfort me without giving start to the same grudge-yelling cycle. She is, apologise, a pathetic woman in many aspects of her life. She didn't even complete primary education, she is divorced, she's afraid of getting old (actually we had another quarrel about her behaviour in relation to her age), she is childish, she's a very uneducated person that bases her comments only on opinion and common thought, she never reads anything apart from the bible and sensationalist titles, she has no friends or lover, she's obsessed with beautiness and glamour, she has no job, she has no money therefore and lives hankering after things she will never afford and is doing anything to try to change it, she has no sexual life, and SO SO on .... Then, I have decided to limit my conversations and treatment with her. Now, she got sick and blames my dad's mother of being a witch and being practising evil rituals in order to destroy her and make her unhappy because she hates her. And every time she repeats that, inside I'm like "C'mon, is that for ... real? :S Do you actually believe that?" I just ... god! the poor old woman is 80+ years and barely can walk, she's about to die, and suffers of Alzheimer! so "how in the world could she be practising black rituals upon her? And ultimately, why does she think she is thaaaat important as to have someone spending her life doping so? (Assuming, of course, that "black magic rituals exist") That's clearly a psychopathological complex of histrionics. Well, she's been lately feeling sick, and I have related her symptoms to depression of feeling alone, as I saw in this article: http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/%E2%80%A6 , she visited the doctor and said she's got a brain inflammation, cause to high level of triglycerides, developed for high stress levels and hormonal disorders. I just wonder, how in the world can she be stresses with that life? She has no worry about job-related stuff cause she has no job, she has no worries about mate case she has no mate, and many other examples. She has such a lot of free time wasted on tv series that she can predict the dialogues of characters! So, the only reason she can be stressed as to develop sicknesses is loneliness, she's terribly alone! But if she's unstandable as a family member, then how could she have any friends at all? She would, of course, never accept it, but yet, she's pathetic. (sigh) Please, give me your best advice, I'm sick of living with her that I only want to run away forever !

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    It's not easy to deal with that level of irrationality. "she cannot hear a "negative" comment about anyone, specially her." This means she has no ability for self-correction, and I would see any resulting conviction as being contrived. If she is unable to put her position forth in an open forum, how can certainty in it honestly be claimed? The concepts of black-magic and witchcraft revolve around anthropomorphizing(humanization of) negative aspects of reality that they do not fully understand. When something goes wrong(like an illness), understanding regarding the reason is desired. The idea of a "witch" is a quick, but lazy and destructive "fix". "I just wonder, how in the world can she be stresses with that life?" Stress often comes from deprivation and a lack of control of surroundings, and isn't usually apparent(often seen as trying to relax). I would imagine the mental games she's playing as a result of belief in witches and the surrounding superstitions are draining and stressful.

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It's not easy to deal with that level of irrationality. "she cannot hear a "negative" comment about anyone, specially her." This means she has no ability for self-correction, and I would see any resulting conviction as being contrived. If she is unable to put her position forth in an open forum, how can certainty in it honestly be claimed? The concepts of black-magic and witchcraft revolve around anthropomorphizing(humanization of) negative aspects of reality that they do not fully understand. When something goes wrong(like an illness), understanding regarding the reason is desired. The idea of a "witch" is a quick, but lazy and destructive "fix". "I just wonder, how in the world can she be stresses with that life?" Stress often comes from deprivation and a lack of control of surroundings, and isn't usually apparent(often seen as trying to relax). I would imagine the mental games she's playing as a result of belief in witches and the surrounding superstitions are draining and stressful.

Tropos

My mom is like this usually, but I think it's worse when she drinks. She keeps a bottle of Vodka in her freezer. It's weird, but I think sometimes people feel more secure and like they have purpose in the world, when they have a job and are working. Of course, I think all of us would rather not work if we didn't have to, but I think there is something healthy about working that is good for a person. My mom seemed more confident and put together when she was working. The longer we stay away from people, the more secluded we may feel --- and the less social interaction we receive, the more distant we feel from humanity. At least that's how I perceive her mindset. It's hard to tell sometimes, because she doesn't always respond to reason. She may agree for a short time, and then revert back to her old ways of thought. It gets quite taxing on me, because I respond to logic and try to help people find solutions. She accuses even my dad of things which she perceives is true, but has no evidence to support her claims. If anything I find her to be completely wrong on some subjects, and I can't tell whether or not she is speaking truthfully or just saying something which she perceives as truth. She constantly dwells on the past. She often stresses herself over imagined scenarios, constantly playing the victim card, and playing on her imagined fears. I think many of these fears may stem from a lack of trust towards people, but I am not sure the root of it. I had prayed for her a lot, and it took a while for God to respond, but I see great improvements. Sometimes she does seem to linger in her old ways of thought. Consistent prayer and leaving the situation in God's hands has been the only thing that I have witnessed to be the most helpful to her. All this greatly tries my patience and endurance, but I still love her and do not want to give up on her. I figure as long as she gets into heaven, then Jesus can straighten her out the rest of the way.

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Sounds to me like she needs diagnosed and prescribed. My mother's got schizophrenia and medicine has worked wonders for her. There is the occasional slip up but she is far better off with it than she would be without.

robert

My mom is like this usually, but I think it's worse when she drinks. She keeps a bottle of Vodka in her freezer. It's weird, but I think sometimes people feel more secure and like they have purpose in the world, when they have a job and are working. Of course, I think all of us would rather not work if we didn't have to, but I think there is something healthy about working that is good for a person. My mom seemed more confident and put together when she was working. The longer we stay away from people, the more secluded we may feel --- and the less social interaction we receive, the more distant we feel from humanity. At least that's how I perceive her mindset. It's hard to tell sometimes, because she doesn't always respond to reason. She may agree for a short time, and then revert back to her old ways of thought. It gets quite taxing on me, because I respond to logic and try to help people find solutions. She accuses even my dad of things which she perceives is true, but has no evidence to support her claims. If anything I find her to be completely wrong on some subjects, and I can't tell whether or not she is speaking truthfully or just saying something which she perceives as truth. She constantly dwells on the past. She often stresses herself over imagined scenarios, constantly playing the victim card, and playing on her imagined fears. I think many of these fears may stem from a lack of trust towards people, but I am not sure the root of it. I had prayed for her a lot, and it took a while for God to respond, but I see great improvements. Sometimes she does seem to linger in her old ways of thought. Consistent prayer and leaving the situation in God's hands has been the only thing that I have witnessed to be the most helpful to her. All this greatly tries my patience and endurance, but I still love her and do not want to give up on her. I figure as long as she gets into heaven, then Jesus can straighten her out the rest of the way.

Real Hero

Sounds to me like she needs diagnosed and prescribed. My mother's got schizophrenia and medicine has worked wonders for her. There is the occasional slip up but she is far better off with it than she would be without.

robert

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