Should I break up with my boyfriend?

What are the do's and don'ts while on a break with your boyfriend?

• My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. We are both in University and have extremely busy lives. I would say we had a great relationship in the beginning. He cheated on my once, it was stupid, i got mad and really questioned if i wanted to be with him. But because I really love him i forgave him. Around the same time he doubted our relationship (this was after 1 year of dating). He claimed he wanted time and space to figure stuff out. This really hurt me as it came from no where, but that night he called and sounded really upset, sorry and worried on the phone. He said that he had gone to one of his best friends house and was telling her everything that had happened, but then realized that he should be explaining this all to me. When he called asking if he can come over, he was actually already at my house. I live about 25 minutes away from him. I didn't know what to think or if i should take him back so soon or what. But because it felt so great to have him apologizing and running back i took him back right away. After that our relationship got better, but once again after being together for almost 3 years he asked for a break. We are a lot more mature now, i would say we have gone through a lot together, we graduated high school and started university together. We basically do everything together because we both want to. About the last month of us dating things were a little rocky, we would get fed up with each other and it seemed like our relationship got very dull. We have never got into fights where we are screaming and swearing at each other, but it just got to the point where it was enough. We have been on a break for about a month, it has been really hard for us because a lot of our daily routines consisted of both of us. I probably talked to him too much at the beginning, but now i after talking to a lot of friends, I realized that giving his space is all he wants and needs, that talking to him may only make it worse. We went for coffee not too long ago and we talked shortly about things we think we an improve on ourselves to make this relationship work, and he told me things i should work on, and i told him things he should work on. We left coffee both quite happy I think. Recently I have been thinking about why he had doubted our relationship twice and I had never and it was bothering me all day. That night I was going out with some friends. I wasn't looking for anyone, nor was I flirting. Then this guy started talking to me, he seemed very nice and offered to buy me a drink. Talking to him kinda gave me a glimpse of what the single life would be like. The whole time I couldn't get the thought of my boyfriend out of my head. As the night went on this guy kissed me. I was completely shocked. It wasn't was I was hoping or looking for. I wasn't flirting with him he just did it. I feel bad for it happening, but It made me realize that i am not fit for the single life. And the kiss was so dull and meant nothing to me. Not like the feeling I still get every time my boyfriend kisses me. I guess what that night showed me is that i would never have to doubt the love and passion i have for my boyfriend. I feel the need to tell him what happened, but i am not too sure how he will take it. I hope he can forgive me because we were on a break and this may sound like an excuse but the kiss was almost like a wake up call for me to fight my hardest not to lose my boyfriend. I hate to bring up the fact that he cheated on me, because I don't think its fair to use his past against him, but if i was able to forgive him for kissing another girl while we were dating, he should be able to forgive me while we we're on a break right? Well that is sorta my story. If any of you have gone through this I would just like to know the do's and don'ts while on a break. I mean I know its different for every relationship, but do you guys think Its bad what happened that night? Should I feel bad for it happening? And how can I tell him in a way that won't ruin our chances of getting back together. Even though I can't keep thinking we will get back together, I want that more than ever, I want to be with him. I hope there is someone out there that can help me!

• Answer:

  I don't love you!