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  • i live in an environment where there is no violence between my parents. however i live in an environment where as a kid it was pretty peaceful and happy. i was peaceful and happy. but now due to the economy and all the stress my parents go through, it's always been "my" fault. every day my dad has this negative face on his face. and he has no patience to talk. he always wants the house clean. he always expects food prepared. and i get that, he worked all day all he's want is for the house to be tidy and food prepared. but if this doesnt happen, then he throws a fit and makes everybody at home not even want stay home. and my mom doesnt do much but she yells at the babies if they don't behave. and it's to teach them only. and i try so hard in school. but have a couple B's 2 C's and 1 A isnt good enough for them. and they always make me feel so negative. i always wanna be out to escape the negativity. and today, i accidently slapped my baby brother's hand because he hit me. but it was an accident because it was just a reaction of mine. but both my mom and dad began yelling at me. and they always have "im the parent, we can hit them to teach. but you can't" and they just kept nagging me about how when i was a kid i was more peaceful, and now im all high tempered and mean. but when i express myself my dad says "i'm the father, you have no right to talk back" but im not..im just expressing my free will. we all have freedom of speech. right? but the point is. does this environment i live in affect me? sure my parents dont physically argue. but they do verbally. the facial expressions at home are pretty negative too. so what do you guys think? is it part of me growing up in this environment that makes me so horrible to my parents? is it my fault im who i am. or is it my parents? it also seems as if my dad favors the good child only. if the good child becomes bad he despises them. i try to talk with them. we've done that. but its always back to it being "my fault" for causing all the negativity. because i always talk back. because i follow the rules of playing games for only 4 hours a day. and nowadays i play here and there because of hw. when it comes to kids they want me to help out. not just me but me and my 12 year old sister. we do. but they make it seem as if we're the parents of the kids. and when we dont help out as much. my dad throws a fit and starts nagging me and my sister with life lessons making us irritated and everybody is just gloomy

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    You decide who you are and how you behave, but parent's do play a role in raising there children to b respectable confident adults and it sounds like your dad isn't getting this, they are busy with the babies and have made you into a typical teenager stereotype instead of a child who is talented, if you can't express how you feel you may have to ask them to come see a councellor with you so you can talk openly about how they make you feel.

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Scott

You decide who you are and how you behave, but parent's do play a role in raising there children to b respectable confident adults and it sounds like your dad isn't getting this, they are busy with the babies and have made you into a typical teenager stereotype instead of a child who is talented, if you can't express how you feel you may have to ask them to come see a councellor with you so you can talk openly about how they make you feel.

Daisey

Of course. Is there someone outside your family you can rely on to let out some of this on a regular basis? You need some support and reassurance that you are not getting everything you need and want from your family right now. You need to find healthy alternative avenues to fill some of those needs and a safe place to vent your frustrations. Unfortunately, you are not alone. I'm an adult and most of my friends experienced some emotional neglect or abuse at some level, at some point, during their childhood. Your ahead of the game IMO that you are able to speak of it and begin to work through it while you are still in it. You may not be able to help your family see their part in the situation, but please take care of yourself. You can find ways to deal with it where it has less negative impact on you. As painful as it is, growing through this challenge is an opportunity for growth. I admire your courage to speak of it and begin to address it thoughtfully and with care, including much care for your own needs and wants.

soyyo815

I believe so. I mean you've grown up in a environment where you did not have to "suffer" (so called) so, now that the whole family is under pressure your family members (including you) is just snapping and expressing your unhappiness. I don't think it's anyone's fault. Not you. Not your parents. I mean they're having a hard time too, having to support a family. Perhaps you could have to talk with your parents to clear up the tension in the house and tell them how you feel(politely of course !)

windy

Most likely there's more to it than you know, economic problems don't usually make the environment like that. I recomend you talk to them, try individually first, then both at the same time. About the school problems, every time you do homework do it where they can see you, if they see you study they'll know it's not because of negligence, it worked for me. But I think you should really do something about them, just tell them how you feel and what you think. Also, when you do, make it clear that you don't want them to interrupt while you're talking. I wish you luck!!!

Sam

I believe so. I mean you've grown up in a environment where you did not have to "suffer" (so called) so, now that the whole family is under pressure your family members (including you) is just snapping and expressing your unhappiness. I don't think it's anyone's fault. Not you. Not your parents. I mean they're having a hard time too, having to support a family. Perhaps you could have to talk with your parents to clear up the tension in the house and tell them how you feel(politely of course !)

windy

Most likely there's more to it than you know, economic problems don't usually make the environment like that. I recomend you talk to them, try individually first, then both at the same time. About the school problems, every time you do homework do it where they can see you, if they see you study they'll know it's not because of negligence, it worked for me. But I think you should really do something about them, just tell them how you feel and what you think. Also, when you do, make it clear that you don't want them to interrupt while you're talking. I wish you luck!!!

Sam

Of course. Is there someone outside your family you can rely on to let out some of this on a regular basis? You need some support and reassurance that you are not getting everything you need and want from your family right now. You need to find healthy alternative avenues to fill some of those needs and a safe place to vent your frustrations. Unfortunately, you are not alone. I'm an adult and most of my friends experienced some emotional neglect or abuse at some level, at some point, during their childhood. Your ahead of the game IMO that you are able to speak of it and begin to work through it while you are still in it. You may not be able to help your family see their part in the situation, but please take care of yourself. You can find ways to deal with it where it has less negative impact on you. As painful as it is, growing through this challenge is an opportunity for growth. I admire your courage to speak of it and begin to address it thoughtfully and with care, including much care for your own needs and wants.

soyyo815

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