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Is it normal for me to feel this way?

Is it normal to feel this way?

  • I'm not a very social person, never have been, but I can talk and really get into a good convo with people...if I feel like it. I'm female, 20 years old, and I have like almost no friends. The ones I have I rarely see, and my fiance is in the military and is currently overseas. When I am around people, strangers or friends, I always feel so different. I feel like I don't belong among people. I'm usually almost always alone. Never been close to anyone except for an old best friend who is no longer in my life and of course my husband-to-be. I'm not the typical 20 year old. I dont party and hardly ever go out. I like to stay home and read about history or workout, and I like reading classic books and learning rather than going out and having "fun". Whenever I go out in public I always, unintentionally, have a serious face on. Some people say I remind them of some serious military seargent because I walk fast and look intimidating. Truth is I'm not that serious, and I'm not so intimidating. Yet I feel like an Ice Queen around people because I'm so unemotional. I guess you can call me a little stiff with the mindset of someone not my age. Is this normal? Am I normal? And please don't say I need to get out more or try to be more social. All of those things seem like such a hassle.

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    There is no normal. But to give a short run-down, you basically are guarding yourself, which there is nothing wrong with that. Either something happened to make yourself so guarded or it's just your personality. Not everyone is social. I was 10-going-on-30, literally with an adult mindset and seriousness. Now, I seem to have reverted back to 10. lol If you want help to become more social, that will take a lot of dedication and work and time, but if you're just curious if it's 'normal', whatever that is, then yes it is. :) Don't worry, you're not weird.

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There is no normal. But to give a short run-down, you basically are guarding yourself, which there is nothing wrong with that. Either something happened to make yourself so guarded or it's just your personality. Not everyone is social. I was 10-going-on-30, literally with an adult mindset and seriousness. Now, I seem to have reverted back to 10. lol If you want help to become more social, that will take a lot of dedication and work and time, but if you're just curious if it's 'normal', whatever that is, then yes it is. :) Don't worry, you're not weird.

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I'm kinda like you too, yeah, it's normal, you just don't feel like it, and I can empathize, because often times, I don't either, and I don't let it bother me...but sometimes, I mean, if you really want to make some new friends, or if it bothers you, you can always try and what you really want, you'll get. But honestly, I think that's perfectly normal, different people act different, no biggy. :)

♪ThatKickAssMusicalWeirdo♫

society doesn't tell us who normal is, but what.. rather a behavior too. I felt what you feel/felt you felt what another is or has... don't treat yourself too hard, like yourself because that's what rocks! I talk to you through writing, let me know how you roll

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I'm kinda like you too, yeah, it's normal, you just don't feel like it, and I can empathize, because often times, I don't either, and I don't let it bother me...but sometimes, I mean, if you really want to make some new friends, or if it bothers you, you can always try and what you really want, you'll get. But honestly, I think that's perfectly normal, different people act different, no biggy. :)

♪ThatKickAssMusicalWeirdo♫

society doesn't tell us who normal is, but what.. rather a behavior too. I felt what you feel/felt you felt what another is or has... don't treat yourself too hard, like yourself because that's what rocks! I talk to you through writing, let me know how you roll

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