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  • The question is "why do you think people gossip? Why do you think people allow others to gossip with them?" Mine response got kind of lengthy and I cant tell if makes sense anymore. I think people gossip because everyone is sort of fascinated with one another. We all spend most of our lives trying to emotionally connect with people without having to become vulnerable ourselves. Gossiping is notably not one of the best ways to connect with people but it creates the illusion that we are gaining greater understanding of one another. Many times when people gossip, they are telling truths that the one who is being gossiped about may not want shared. Those listening to gossip realize that they themselves have secrets they don’t want shared and at the same time realize that their secrets are what keep them safe and closed off from everyone else. Through this logic, people believe that knowing someone else’s secrets brings you closer to them and gives you a greater understanding of them. The curiosity of those listening to gossip overcomes the ability to empathize with the person being gossiped about. The gossip is oftentimes not stopped even after all involved feel that is has gone too far. A group mentality of sharing information is created and people hang on every word, whether is be true or false. Gossipers lie to please other gossipers by providing them with more exposing information. People often believe that by knowing secrets about another person, they hold a greater understanding of them. This is a false illusion because often what we do in secret does not have much to do with our true character. Gossip presents the false sense of understanding another person without having to put one’s self forward an expose our own emotions. I agree with what you said about what we do when no one is looking being what defines us. I just kind of wrote that it wasn't but you're right about that and I didn't think that part through for sure. I've changed that sentence to say "This is a false illusion because often what we do in secret is distorted by those who comment on it."

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    While your wording makes sense, I TOTALLY disagree with your take on the gossip. In your explanation, a gossip is well meaning and trying to "connect" with others. In my personal experience, they are mean spirited, liars who have no regard for the feelings of others. Some gossips spread rumors to destroy lives and reputations, and get joy out of knowing that there are others out there that are worse than them, that are more evil than them, even if it is an illusion created by their very lies! Other gossips are just bored, and gossip to create excitement. They enjoy stirring things up because their lives are so Unfullfilling. A gossip is never simply trying to connect with the person they are gossiping about. They might be trying to connect with the other gossips... But I've never seen one with any regard for the person being gossiped about. As far as the things we do in secret being no tell tale sign of who we truly are... WHAT?!? The things someone does when they think no one is LOOKING, well, THAT my friend is who that person is. If that person kicks a dog because no one is around, that person is an animal abuser. PERIOD.

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While your wording makes sense, I TOTALLY disagree with your take on the gossip. In your explanation, a gossip is well meaning and trying to "connect" with others. In my personal experience, they are mean spirited, liars who have no regard for the feelings of others. Some gossips spread rumors to destroy lives and reputations, and get joy out of knowing that there are others out there that are worse than them, that are more evil than them, even if it is an illusion created by their very lies! Other gossips are just bored, and gossip to create excitement. They enjoy stirring things up because their lives are so Unfullfilling. A gossip is never simply trying to connect with the person they are gossiping about. They might be trying to connect with the other gossips... But I've never seen one with any regard for the person being gossiped about. As far as the things we do in secret being no tell tale sign of who we truly are... WHAT?!? The things someone does when they think no one is LOOKING, well, THAT my friend is who that person is. If that person kicks a dog because no one is around, that person is an animal abuser. PERIOD.

Cindy

I don't know who old you are but you sound intelligent. Now with that said.... Have you ever played the game while as others are inside a circle and eatch whispers in the next persons ear as to what was just heard? Back to the original person it could be messed up completely. Everybody gossips without knowing the real story.

SKnice

Also, when people gossip endorphins, the happy chemical are released from the brain, which can be addictive. Also this allows for the individuals who take part to bond. Next time watch how excited people get when they take part in a bit of gossip and you'll see that there is a little more going on inside.

JayJ

i agree with you. i dont believe gossip is always great because even though it gives us time to emotionally connect with another being, it gives us wrong interpretations, gets us into trouble, and occupies our mind worrying about others lives rather than creating huge ideas, and imaginating.

AZTEC

It does make sense but you might find it is lengthy because you come away from the initial question in parts.

Smile

We all gossip. There is a difference between gossip, damaging one's business (rehilus -sic?) and warning people is impending danger due to another person or people's actions. It is permitted to tell, not only permitted, but required and enforced when doing to (to warn others of the impending danger(s). Otherwise, we would be overcome by the danger and cease to exist. Did not Hashem G-d The Creator even warn His people? Are there those who are so shallow and wrapped up in their idolatry that they think Moshiach would not take on the same characteristics of Hashem G-d the Creator?

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Also, when people gossip endorphins, the happy chemical are released from the brain, which can be addictive. Also this allows for the individuals who take part to bond. Next time watch how excited people get when they take part in a bit of gossip and you'll see that there is a little more going on inside.

We all gossip. There is a difference between gossip, damaging one's business (rehilus -sic?) and warning people is impending danger due to another person or people's actions. It is permitted to tell, not only permitted, but required and enforced when doing to (to warn others of the impending danger(s). Otherwise, we would be overcome by the danger and cease to exist. Did not Hashem G-d The Creator even warn His people? Are there those who are so shallow and wrapped up in their idolatry that they think Moshiach would not take on the same characteristics of Hashem G-d the Creator?

I don't know who old you are but you sound intelligent. Now with that said.... Have you ever played the game while as others are inside a circle and eatch whispers in the next persons ear as to what was just heard? Back to the original person it could be messed up completely. Everybody gossips without knowing the real story.

SKnice

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